In what ways would schools/parents have to change in order to produce fewer angry teens?

Schools and universities should focus on education and not grades. Admission average should be 50% in university. We should be placing less stress not more stress on students to succeed.

Nip bullying in the bud.
Encourage more peaceful entertainment instead of violence everything.
Let them know failure can be a learning tool, instead of dread and despair.

Teach their children about compassion and the welfare of others. That the world isn’t just about “ME.”

Parents should start by disciplining their children from home and teaching them morals and values. A teen can be coming from a single parent home or even a poor home, if values and morals are taught and encouraged at home, teens would learn how to control their anger, be kind to others and also have a sense of achievement. Too many parents overlook this and give their children privileges that kids assume are rights. They loose respect and appreciation for things that were given to them. If children learn from an early age to have morals and values that are taught by their parents we would definitely have less angry teens.

I’m not sure we have any more angry kids than we ever did, I just think we have more angry kids with assault weapons.

^ This, I think.

I was an angry, alienated teen. I spent my teen years (late 80s) going to see all-age punk rock/hardcore/industrial shows, which was my outlet. I was lucky to find weirdos like me that became a tight group of friends.

There were times where I contemplated suicide in a very serious way. And I had such alienation and resentment against 99% of the people in my school. What if I had also had access to guns? I probably wouldn’t have done anything, but it certainly would have made suicide a much more attractive option.

I don’t know whether teens are more or less angry today, but I suspect that they are the same. Teens are hormonal crazy people, and are prone to dangerous risk-taking behavior. But since Columbine, it seems as though the gun massacre is on the table for some people. I don’t see this as a change in teens, but just a door that can’t be closed now.

@SQUEEKY2 Let them know failure can be a learning tool, instead of dread and despair.

Great would have helped me in school. How do you teach that? Can you teach that to me?

I think parents should be more vigilant than ever before as there are more chances that kids can either kill themselves (due to games like blue whale ) or kill others due to easy access to weapons rather being self indulgent.

@SQUEEKY2 https://www.fluther.com/206504/how-do-you-teach-students-to-see-failure-as-a-learning/
I turned our conversation into a new question in social. Too keep on topic.

In this society it is hard, both parents most times have to work full time jobs just to pay the bills,leaving the kids to fend for themselves.
Leaving some to feel abandoned,and turn to things like violent entertainment to pass the time.
I think people (not just kids ) have lost the need for face to face time with others hence text and cell phones.
Leaving some to feel very alone.
I for one am very glad to skip the parenting part of life, I think it’s getting very complicated.
I hope the human race can indeed find an answer to this great question but I am not sure people have the time, will power(to even admit ) there is a problem with the anger in todays youth, most will just shrug it off saying kids will be kids type thing.
But until we do these mass shooting are going to continue.
I know and until we do, we will continue to just blame the gun and not the frustrated, very angry person pulling the trigger.

Perhaps less angry adults walking around viewing everyone as a potential threat would help.

Wow look at this @Darth_Algar I am actually agreeing with you on your answer.^^

Don’t marry someone if you don’t love them. My parents argue a lot. My dad is probably going to move in a room in our basement. I’m not an angry kid, but my brother is.

The solution to this starts at home. Not just with how a parents raise their child, but how their parents treat eachother and react to situations and handle things. Young kids learn by seeing.

Teenagers were always angry. Teenagers will always be angry. It is a good and appropriate part of development.

There are angry teens around the globe all the time. That, in and of itself, is not a bad thing. Annoying but not bad. Teens are meant to be annoying.

The tools and toys they have around them when they’re angry are different in the US right now.

I’ve actually been really impressed with most of the teens I come in contact with in person. Maybe there’s some kind of selection bias, but their outlook seems way ahead of where I remember me and my peers being at their age.

Don’t get me wrong, they say and do stupid things, but they’re supposed to. Overall the group about to be adults seems to be more conscientious and comfortable with who they are than I remember my group being.

That said, I think if we’re going to throw so many measurements, tests, and contests at kids, starting by measuring them against themselves over time rather than against each other would eliminate a lot of the early classifying the seems to go on way before we’re fully formed as people. It would also give them more encouragement with their personal strengths and help kids find something of their own.

Why does a third grader need to know where they fall on an academic scale relative to their classmates or averages? What’s the kid the 30th percentile shooting for exactly? Passing? Wouldn’t it be better to measure them against themselves until it becomes important? Celebrate progress rather than absolute measurements.

I think parents can help by getting kids more involved in some things outside the social aspects of high school. Can you imagine if you had to get all your friends from work and didn’t have other pools to pull from? I think that happens to a lot of kids too, so having some other social circles can really help.

Most people don’t hit their stride until after high school, but when you’re in it it can seem like the whole world. Anything parents and teachers can show outside of that is going to lend some perspective.

@SergeantQueen It’s lovely to see you write that last answer!

The anger of the children doesn’t come from them originally. It comes through the adults. It comes from the failings of the current state of our society. It comes from our failures to provide them with families and schools and communities that are sane and healthy and offer them acceptance and understanding and authenticity and belonging and that has balanced adults and all the other things a healthy society should offer.

No, we have madness and corruption and idiocy and man-child authoritarians and ungrown insensitive abusive projecting adults for too many of their parents and teachers and so on.

As for the violent media, I’d say that it’s the nature of the violent media, not just that it is violent. The violence is too often shown as a positive answer to broken society and nasty injustice and controlling oppressive villains.

Far too often, children who are abused or molested or bullied or who struggle in various ways have inadequate resources, particularly too few really healthy perceptive safe wise adults whom they can go to for listening, counsel, safety, support, etc.

I was a single parent for many years. I taught my kids right from wrong, to think for themselves, to consider others, to have respect for themselves and others and not to be doormats. I taught them that it is okay to disagree but not to be disagreeable. I taught them how to ask questions. They grew up great. But I also made them a priority in my life. I didn’t give them everything; I couldn’t. But I gave them my time and consideration always. I made decisions about my life and considered them every time. THAT is what is missing, I think. Too many parents don’t want to put in the effort nor make the hard choices when they need to be made. Schools need to teach children how to think for themselves and how to learn. They need to instill discipline and respect.

Seems to me big families are dwindling, thus more kids are only children, or in small family units. I see many families raising selfish, entitled kids who get anything they want. There’s a 10 year old I know with a cell phone costing almost a thousand bucks, who is okay ignoring grandma and grandpa and tells his parents on them if he doesn’t get his way. A good kid but being raised to believe money and things are the important values in life. I see it in so many young kids, it’s sad, and pervasive. That’s what I see as a major factor in the younger generations being so social yet anti social, and rather cruel to have nots.

And stop teaching children to be so competitive!