My girlfriend calls and meets often a guy that she dated 3 years ago?

From my experience, it’s not a good sign. I was friends with all my ex’s, but always a few feelings involved. If its a true platonic friendship, why aren’t you with them and his girlfriend?

@KNOWITALL She did ask one time to come and meet him, but we decided to bail and that was the day that I found out that they used to be in a relationship, we argued a lot after I found out about him and then things just escalated from there and she never invited me to meet him after that although I asked her a couple of times to meet him…we are no longer dating today and I just think that I couldn’t be in a relationship like this where my girlfriend meets her ex. And I know she often called or went to meet him to talk about us and our fights.

Is she a person of integrity in every other area of her life? If she is, then she’s on the level with this too, and you should be able to trust her that relationship also. And of course the opposite is true as well.

Kinda sounds like she wants to know just how much YOU like her by bringing up the subject. What would you say? What would you do?

@snowberry yes she is, but then I decided to tell her that I used to talk to a woman at my workplace, didn’t sleep with her but we flirted a lot and after I told her she was really jealous and always asking me if I was bumping into her at work. Then I told her that this wasn’t comparable since I have no choice but to meet her at work because we work at the same place and that I’m not calling her and inviting her to meet me for lunch like my ex girlfriend does. she said it was the same thing but I do not think thats true, double standards if you ask me. And the funny thing is I was trying to avoid talking to the woman at work because I knew it bothered my ex…childish I know.

@kritiper what do you mean? you think she was testing me to see how I would react? it bothered me a lot to be honest…

Sorry, sounds like they want to date again to me. Once every couple mpnyhs is friendship, more seems excessive. I think your gut instinct was right.

@KNOWITALL It wasn’t per se…she was also pressuring me to move in with her at the time but I didn’t want to because we had been arguing a lot about her ex, but I gave in and decided to move in with her…which was a bad decision because the fighting kept on going. After we broke up she was always texting me and trying to get the relationship working but it was hard and she was often nasty to me and telling me that it was all my fault that we broke up and that it was my mess and I had to fix it. I didn’t put up with it and we ended our relationship. 2 days after I moved all my stuff out, I find out she already is seeing someone else (not her ex by the way). That kinda sucked for a week but I’m over it now, Gotta keep on with my life.

^^ so you left already? if not, run like hell. I mean it.

@ARE_you_kidding_me I sense that you have had a similar experience? Yeah I left, I didn’t think that it was fair that she was still talking to a guy she dated and still went to meet him after I told her it bothered me…she always said that he was her best friend. And she would get jealous that I had to work with a woman who I used to flirt with…

No, I have a sort of 6th sense when it comes to females and crazy even by proxy. I ended up marrying one anyway but she is a sort of innocent adorable crazy I can’t help but love (non destructive). What you’re describing is catastrophic, like biblical end of the world type shit. Don’t look back.

@ARE_you_kidding_me hahahaha thats funny, thanks man

@BirdMan14 That is exactly what I meant.

You already broke up with her so what exactly is your question? Obviously it didn’t sit well with you.

The question is do you trust her? Obviously you didn’t.

@kritiper Yeah It hasn’t sit well with me, my mind is kinda torn up at the moment. Some days I’m fine and optimistic and other days I’m kinda dealing with thoughts about the breakup. I don’t know if I would ever want to date her, I think I just miss the routine and her company and it kinda sucks that she started dating another man 2 days after our relationship ended..because she texted me often when we were trying to fix the relationship and I always responded and wanted to fix it but she kept saying that the problem was all on me because I was jealous (I mean can’t deny that) and she was unfair quite often during the fixing. But my question is basically, is it alright for your girlfriend to stay so much in contact with a guy she dated, like calling him many times during the week and visiting him alone and going to lunch with him…in my mind she was basically dating the both of us.

Every relationship has its own parameters. There are no rights or wrongs; it’s what the couple agrees on between themselves. You and she were obviously not a match on this important issue.

@BirdMan14 Life’s a bitch, you know, and then there’s the dealing with women thing… Give yourself at least 6 months to get over it and you’ll feel better. Best wishes!