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Do you get offended when people don’t text you back right away?

Asked by rockfan (14632points) March 3rd, 2018 from iPhone

I met a really nice woman last week and had lunch with her yesterday. Today, she texted me on Facebook out of the blue and joked about having a hard time opening a CD case. It was completely random conversation. She made another random comment that didn’t require me to answer back, this wasn’t a serious conversation or anything. She didn’t text anything else, so I assumed she was busy or the conversation naturally ended. 30 minutes later she texted me “I don’t like being unread. We shouldn’t hang out again. Good luck in your endeavors.”

Does this sound like narcisstic behavior to you?

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cookieman's avatar

No. I assume people have lives, are busy, and not glued to their phones. That’s insane behavior.

Jeruba's avatar

That’s nuts.

chyna's avatar

What? You weren’t sitting by your phone in the hopes she would text you so you could read and respond immediately?
You are better off with that drama out of your life. You called her a woman which makes me believe she’s not a teenager. I can almost see that from a teen, but not a grown ass woman.

rockfan's avatar

She’s apologizing and mentioned that she “blew up on me for no reason” and that I should “forget everything she said.”

Jeruba's avatar

I think forgetting everything she said is a great idea. Everything.

Zaku's avatar

No I don’t get offended by people not responding to texts.

I do cock an eyebrow at people who do… but I’m willing to forgive that too, up to a point.

I’d talk to her in person about it, and see if you can come to an agreement about communication expectations.

(I’ve had some dysfunctional experiences with women expecting to be in immediate remote communication with me of one sort or another. One was/is just crazy, I think. Another was worth working through the text-expectation craziness. Electronic communications have some people being really weird, but some people can alter their expectations.)

AshlynM's avatar

I have been guilty of this, but have been getting better about not expecting responses immediately. If someone really wants to talk to you, they will.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I don’t get upset if people don’t send a response. i figure they are busy with life. That is how it should be. Texting is at the bottom of my priority list. Talking with someone in person is at teh top. Phone conversation is somewhere between those two.
If you can’t answer, sometimes a simple emoji is enough.

marinelife's avatar

Definitely not. I assume they are busy living their lives. It sounds like she has pretty fragile self-esteem. I would count it a lucky escape.

SergeantQueen's avatar

Depending on who it is/what I am asking for I might get mad but not like offended in the “oh this person hates me” sense.

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