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Have you ever taken the coward's way out of a relationship?

Asked by Jeruba (56106points) March 10th, 2018

One way or another, it was over for you, but you didn’t want to break up outright. So—

• you made some kind of phony excuse
• you moved away
• you forced the other person to break up with you
• you withdrew gradually without explaining
• you got involved with somebody else
• you just plain lied
• you said “It’s not you. It’s me. I just need some space.” etc.
• [other]

Or are you the type that will hang on until the bitter end, hoping something will change, until the other party is just worn out and you two simply fall apart?

 

Tags as I wrote them: relationships, breakups, excuses, exit lines, awkward triangles, moving on.

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8 Answers

SergeantQueen's avatar

I’ve never broken up with anyone. I don’t want to, so I’d probably stay until they wanted to leave I guess.

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me by texting me “Sorry, but the number you’ve texted is no longer in service” it was fake obviously.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Bitter end or I just got mad and left.

elbanditoroso's avatar

I just never called her again.

MrGrimm888's avatar

I ghosted a girl once. It was easier back then. It was certainly cowardly. I was only 19 though. I don’t think I would do it now.

johnpowell's avatar

I slowly vanished.

And I hooked up with this woman on New Years eve I met at a bar. Being the fucking idiot I am I spaced that the reason we even got talking in the first place was because she was friends with my sister. So in the morning I bounced and gave her a fake phone number.

My sister was not happy….

Mimishu1995's avatar

I think sometimes fighting to the bitter end isn’t a good option, especially when you know that person has never cared to fight for the relationship in the first place.

I usually just slowly drift away, when I sense that the other person doesn’t do the work for the relationship. I stop caring for their life, stop answering messages, stop returning call… until the other one gets the message. The relationship will wither if both people don’t care for it.

elbanditoroso's avatar

I have yet to find someone that is worth begging for and fighting for.

There was one, 40 years ago…but she married someone else.

tinyfaery's avatar

That was all I used to do. I just behaved in ways that made people break up with me.

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