How do I deal with anger from the past?

Surely you’ve been dealing with issues from the past with counselors for many years. It’s time to focus on improving your life in the present. Own up to what you did that caused your problems in the past and take responsibility for now.

@janbb Actualy no counsellors have helped me in the past. I made myself a target from taking unfavorable viewpoints in university. I guess I shouldn’t have befriended crazy people. I took the side of gay marriage in a Lutheran university. I acted like I had tenure and had the full protection of the human rights bill. I made too many enemies in such a small time
I will keep my mouth shut next time I relive the past. I basically made myself a target from day one.

You apply attention to it. Developing skills in how to process feelings is an essential life skill, and without it we slowly become more and more dysfunctional and unhappy.

Paths I’ve had great experiences with include:

Healthy friends
Counseling
Psychotherapy
Holistic Peer Counseling (after you get trained, you can trade counseling with others rather than paying someone)
Meditation
Landmark Education

There is an old saying that a good life is the best revenge. The more you keep yourself from moving forward by dwelling on the past, the more you vindicate those who wronged you. It has been 17 years! Some of those who interrogated you may not even remember you or, for all you know, may not even be alive.

There are people who have been wrongfully accused who have been put in jail for years without vindication and without psychotic episodes. You need to take stock of your situation and decide what to do with your life. You must stop using your past as an excuse for inactivity. As I have said before, to no avail, DO SOMETHING! Take a course, look for a job, do volunteer work, just about anything is better than feeling angry all the time.

The past only exists in the present as stories we tell ourselves. When you find yourself thinking about the past, note it, and try to bring your attention to what’s really going on right now.

Is there no lawyer available, that could at least point you in the right direction?

@MrGrimm888 I called legal aide years ago they were scared to take on the university or police. I talked to a lawyer and he never got back to me. I refused to pay my student loans and they couldn’t care less and I got put on expensive medication and was put on disability to pay for it and was restricted from working. It snowballed all wrong. I was willing to protest and raise a stink and it just fell apart. I never got my day in court.

@RedDeerGuy1 – If you don’t mind, I’m going to copy/paste a story I feel is relevant and helpful. It’s a classic story, but this version is from the great kid’s book, Zen Shorts:

Two traveling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her sedan chair. The rains had made deep puddles and she couldn’t step across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there, looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they held for her, so they couldn’t help her across the puddle.

The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put her on his back, transported her across the water, and put her down on the other side. She didn’t thank the older monk, she just shoved him out of the way and departed.

As they continued on their way, the young monk was brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to hold his silence, he spoke out. “That woman back there was very selfish and rude, but you picked her up on your back and carried her! Then she didn’t even thank you!

“I set the woman down hours ago,” the older monk replied. “Why are you still carrying her?”

Oh I like that story. I like it very much.
I have never heard it before. Wish somebody would have told it to me about thirty-five years ago!

Write them a long, detailed letter and mail it. You may omit your name and address, if you wish…

So this al happened when you were 23, but hadn’t you already been beyond University by then? You’ve said in the past you only were there for a short time.

And what were the police asking you about? You don’t have a legal case for them asking you questions about a crime. That is their job.

@zenvelo I left university in 2000 in summer 2000 I started travelling through time. The police officer told my friend that he is 99.99% sure that I sent a death threat to my friend. She stopped talking to me and the university broke us up. No one would do group assisnments with me and no one would give me the time of day. My marks suffered , and Its possible that marks where docked from my final grades. I spent 2 years in university and one year of business school total. Also the friends boyfriend worked as a supervisor at the Tim Hortons where the $ 2 cake pan was stolen. They could have doing their job or the could have targeting problem students. Telling my friends that he was sure that I sent a death threat to her was a low blow. I just needed to talk to someone on Fluther. Thanks for your solid insight. I thought I was framed. The interrogation scarescared the living daylights out of me and pisseposses me off.

“in summer 2000 I started travelling through time.”

Whoa! What? Come again?

@RedDeerGuy1, If you ever got your day in court, what charges would you bring against the police or university? Like @zenvelo said, you can’t accuse the police of interrogating you. Is there something horrible that they did during the interrogations? Did they torture you or threaten you with physical harm?

@LostInParadise I would sue for damages and emotionally pain and suffering and for telling my friend that I 100% sent her a death threat

@cookieman In university I was traumatized and started believing that I was reliving the past over and over again searching for vindication. Could be time travel could be flashbacks from ptsd.

@RedDeerGuy1 Fantasizing about suing is a fool’s game twenty years after the event. I am not a professional so my information may be wrong but I was told by a very intelligent mentally ill friend that mental illness can be caused by a precipitating event and an innate predisposition. You have had tough situations all of your life as have many of us. What are you doing to cope and move ahead in the now?

@janbb I am talking about it on Fluther. I could sue them in the past. I would accept an apology from those involved

@janbb After I finish my laundry I will go to a free therapy session. And ask them for help moving on.

Good!