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Has anyone gotten divorced from 30 years of marriage and around 60 years old?

Asked by MooCows (3216points) April 3rd, 2018

Wondering how it worked out for someone who is older
and married for so long then got divorced. Did you feel lost
because maybe so many things your spouse took care of?
Did you regret it after awhile single and older or did you
find the partner of your dreams even at 60?
Just wondering what it is like?

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janbb's avatar

It’s like a roller coaster but you hang on. My husband walked out on me after 37 years of an ok, but not terrific, marriage. He did take care of a lot of things, and I took care of others, and I was pretty panic stricken and shocked. But I didn’t fall apart and I made a new life for myself. I’ve done some dating but am pretty sure at this point that I will not find a new life partner. (We’ve been apart for six years.) On the plus side, I’ve had a lot of adventures, made many new friends and grown more confident in my ability to handle life and practical issues alone. I really regret the way it’s split up our family and wish we were together for that reason but I didn’t have a choice in that. I get lonely at times and other times am delighted to be just living for myself.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Has it been 6 years already? Well, here is the ♥ I wanted to give you @janbb, instead of a simple GA.

janbb's avatar

@Dutchess_III You can do both. Heehee! And thanks.

gondwanalon's avatar

I’m 67 and I can’t emagine life without my wife.

LornaLove's avatar

No, but I read a lot of stories the other day about women who left their spouses for various reasons at ages anything from 50 to 60 and beyond. They were happy after a time. Many found themselves, new hobbies, new lives, but I am sure it took time. Like @janbb has mentioned she found herself in many ways.
I know that love and love affairs of the heart never die. Age is but a number. I know this because when I used to visit my parents in the aged home, love, sex and passion were all over the place. There were couples getting married and having a great time.
It’s really up to you.
A passion can be for anything, a passion for life, for love and for being you to your full potential. If your heart is open to love you will receive it. If it is open to friends you will receive that too. It’s a bit of choice, coupled with a few decisions and then most importantly action. Meaning get out there and just get on with it.

flutherother's avatar

I got divorced after 25 years of marriage at the age of 55. It was quite traumatic but necessary. Life goes on. I didn’t meet the person of my dreams but I met someone I could not possibly have dreamt of. My life took an unexpected and an amazing turn. I regret the break up of my family but I am still close to my children and I am enjoying life very much.

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