How do I approach him?

I’m sorry to break this to you, and I feel like you already know this, but he is back with his ex and he is acting distant because he is in a relationship now. I think you should move on and find someone that is available.

There are two candies with him now and you allow him this opportunity. One represents you, the other is his ex. He knows he can choose to eat which one first. Once the other candy is out of its sweetness perhaps he’ll try the new candy. If you’re ready for this reality then wait until he got bored of his current candy and he’ll probably go after you soon afterwards. If not, then do not approach this man. He does not show trustworthy behavior.

You can ask him. You have that right, just ask him out straight, ‘Are you back with your girlfriend, I need to know so that I can move on’.

People think they have to play games in ‘love’ they don’t. Everyone deserves to know a persons intention with them. It shows you have rights and are not afraid to discuss them. Don’t sound simpering or afraid, be strong and casual and simply state you have a right to know. If he is back with her, exit and exit fast. Don’t be a ‘go to’ when things don’t work out with her for him.

He is back with her. Since she was an “ex” there is probably a reason. She likely will be an ex again, as soon as the problem, whatever that is, poses itself again.

He likes leaving his options open. You are merely one of his many options. Don’t allow yourself to get sucked into that kind of situation.

I’m sure he would say things to you that sound tempting, but just vague enough so that he has an exit plan, for when you, or the other woman become “inconvenient” for him.

He will probably say something like, “I never said that!” or “I’m sorry if you got the wrong idea” or “I was honest with you.” So he doesn’t have to look like the bad guy.

Move on and find someone who you really like, that really likes you too. Someone who is 100% available and looking for a real relationship.