Are you consciously doing something that you know gets on somebody else's nerves?
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April 26th, 2018
If so, what, and whose nerves, and why?
Snapping your gum, leaving dishes in the sink, playing loud music at night, being late for things, missing deadlines, leaving the coffee pot empty?
People at home, at work, in the neighborhood, at school?
Maybe you never deliberately intended to be a pain. But once you know you’re doing something that bothers them, even to the point that you just know they’re imagining creative ways to commit murder or at least get revenge, why do you keep it up? What’s it doing for you?
Tags as I wrote them: irritation, annoyance, passive aggression, entitlement, inconsideration, pettiness, mountains and molehills.
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I purposely bother my husband all the time. I cuddle next to him when I know he’d probably prefer his own space. I call his name to get his attention when I don’t necessarily have much to say.
I keep the above up, because I believe they are what I call “cariño” things. Cariño means with caring/love/heart. If I died tomorrow (God forbid) I’ve convinced myself he would miss those thing. Ha! Both things I do for connection. He does like to cuddle, it’s not like he hates it altogether, I just sometimes have bad timing.
Then there are things I do that I don’t want to purposely bother him, but I know what I’m doing will bother him. I watch the TV in the living, or even just have the light on in the living room, when he’s trying to go to sleep in the bedroom. The rooms are close together, and if just knows I’m in there doing something he has trouble sleeping. It’s ridiculous. He says he’s worried I’ll fall asleep with the light or TV left on. So what?! I fall asleep out on the sofa maybe twice a month, and usually wake up a couple of hours later, and then go to the bedroom. I do stay up later than him most nights, but not all nights. Anyway, I don’t care that he’s neurotic about worrying that the light might stay on all night. It’s an LED lightbulb, it doesn’t waste much electricity, don’t worry.
I hope so. I enjoy being a pain in the ass sometimes. Some people are just such easy targets.
I tell people that there is “Only One True, Great North.”
I say it with seriousness (True North being, either the Polar star Polaris), or the North Pole.
I mention often how the dream soul can visit the world of the dead, and how the dead, the spark of divinity, can visit us in our dreams.
Some of these ideas I am really looking for a sounding board, or to remind people that where we live is not all there is. But sometimes, I think I am just looking for a reaction.
@jleslie. That reminds me of a movie I saw a long time ago. It was an elderly couple and she put Knick knacks in the kitchen window and he would take them down. She died one day and he put the Knick knacks in the window and left them there.
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