How to overcome the feeling of being judged?

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The best way that I can answer that question – from experience, believe me! – is to turn it around: How often do you judge others? (And the follow-up: And how severely?)

Based on your own question and the anxiety you’ve expressed about that feeling of “being” judged, I expect that you do a fair amount of judging yourself, and you could probably work on your own feelings of “acceptance”. When you do that, then your considerations about others’ judging of you will probably diminish, too.

Obviously at this point, that’s little more than a guess, since I don’t know you at all – but consider it a pretty experienced guess.

@TheAngelskryptonite We would never worry about what others think of us IF we knew how seldom they did.

You are your own worst enemy!!!

People are going to judge others because it makes them feel superior. You do NOT have to accept their judgment!!! Exactly what is it that makes them superior or right with how they choose to judge you??? NOTHING!!!

You do NOT have to accept what others think of you!!! Just be the BEST you that you can be & to h3ll with what others think.

IF the truth be known most people don’t really care about what you’re like. They’re way too busy worrying what other people are thinking about them!!! So, JUST BE YOU!!! Don’t judge yourself so harshly & ENJOY your life.

The people who don’t like you EXACTLY like you are don’t matter. Those who do are your keepers because they are your REAL FRIENDS!!!

Find a way to learn to love yourself & STOP worrying about what others think.
Haters are going to hate so don’t take it personal…it’s NOT you, it’s THEM & they don’t matter!!!

Don’t think of it as judgement.
We all look at those around us and kind of size them up. We compare them to ourselves, each other, and maybe even celebrities. It isn’t intended in any sort of mean way.
It is just sort of an instinctual habit. We use it as a kind of social gauge. “Where do I fit in?”
Even as toddlers we do this, to learn from elders, and to choose friends.
It isn’t like somebody is going to hand out trophies and booby prizes.

How would you like to get a laugh?
I feel that way sometimes with computers. If I forget a password, and try a bunch of times, I get this feeling in my gut, “Man, they’re going to think I’m stupid.” Yet, I know there is nobody watching a screen somewhere thinking, “This person is so dense!”
It is just some gut reaction.

Just flip that feeling. Suppose they are thinking, “I’ll never be that smart.”

Your feelings are not unusual. You are simply letting it be bigger than you, and it really is not.

There are ways to develop self-awareness and familiarity with your own patterns of thoughts and feelings and to be able to realize they are subconsciously programmed habits and to dismiss them and develop other patterns. Meditation, Focusing, NLP, holistic peer counseling, therapy, books about toxic shame, Landmark Education, and others, can all be very helpful for that.

As you get older, you tend to learn to not care if people judge you, at least I did. Be you, be unashamed, and if they don’t like it so be it. It shouldn’t affect your life, your nerves or personality if people don’t like you. Trust me, it used to be very important to me and as soon as I let it go, I blossomed and got my power back and now am rockin it.