Can I get a group hug? (Details)
Calling all jellies.
I have a lot on my plate, right now. I’m trying to improve my situation, but it’s been tough. But hugs, can help us all…
Care to give a hug, and maybe give reason why it helps you too?
Do you need a hug? Why?
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I just hooked up with a new girl. Thought she was awesome. Turns out, she’s got a lot of problems. I was really happy at first, but now it sucks.
I got a new job. At a great place. Problem is, that new girl is a manager. I received news last night that my new job offer was rescinded. No reason given…
So. I thought I found the girl of my dreams, and lost her quickly. Thought I found the job of my dreams, and lost it quickly.
I’m fucking bummed out. I feel stupid. I wish I had made better decisions, but I thought she was different. I wouldn’t have got with her, if I knew who she really was, and what it could have meant to my new career.
I’m such a fuck up.
I think I’m only attracted to crazy/terrible women. Now that may have cost me a great job, that would have really improved my life.
Just venting, I guess. Sorry….
{{{HUGS}}}
Although virtual hugs can’t really be felt, they are meant to be heart felt.
Maybe this didn’t work out for you because something even better is coming your way.
(((((((HUG)))))))
There is that bitch in every setting. Hell, I’m currently working for a bitch too and I feel like I’m constantly walking on an eggshell because who knows what she will do to me if I rub her the wrong way. My plan is to put up with her for a while, then after I’ve found a right place to stand on my 2 feet I’ll let her eat dust. Maybe you can apply some of that too.
Awww here is a big {{{{HUG}}} from the north, been having a rough patch myself fell at work broke a finger on my left hand, bruised the hell out of my left shoulder and gave myself a big black eye.
A day later our dishwasher blew up.
And if that wasn’t enough while at the hospital getting my finger operated on, some idiot hit my new truck and gave it a nice dent in a rear fender.
Oh and I have to have a huge cast on my left hand for a month so I don’t screw up the finger while healing making my left hand about 90%useless.
Only plus is Mrs Squeeky has been super great through all this.
I can use a hug as the bank has called every day this week looking for their payment and it just isn’t there. We are trying to figure out something to sell that wouldn’t hurt us but be worth some $ to sell. It is hard being stressed days on end. I can use a giant HUG!
((((((HUG))))))
I know sometimes it can be overwhelming. Just remember we are all works in progress, and what is important isn’t as much what we are, as how we are able to adapt at what comes next.
You can handle this!
@moocows. I’m sending good thoughts along with hugs that you can work all of this out.
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Sweetie…
Been there, done that more than once.
All I can tell you is that as life continued those terribly dark days prepared me for the absolute BEST day of my life!!! Had it not been for my worst days, I’d NEVER had appreciated the BEST day ever!!!
As to your hug question, I was going out to lunch in the middle of winter & having a very difficult time walking. Just as I got to the door to go inside I heard a faint voice yelling “Lady, hey lady”. I turned to see a dirty dried up little old lady. She yelled over asking “May I give you a hug?. God says you need a hug today & I have one for you.” She was so dirty, I started to say no. Then I thought that maybe she needed to give a hug worse than I needed to receive one so I responded “Yes, please.” She did her version of running over to me & gave me a good ole bear hug. I didn’t think I needed one as I was having a good day; but I found that it felt so freaking good that it made my day even better!!! It felt so good I almost cried. Now, I never refuse to give or receive a hug.
You’re NOT stupid, you just had a lapse in judgement & thanks to this hiccup, I see GREAT things in your future!!!
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone’s troubles disappear.
Since I can’t, here’s a big HUG for everyone and a funny dog video to get your mind off of the bad stuff : )
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GF60Iuh643I
(hugs to all who need or want one)
I can use one, too, as most things in life are going okay but mom’s chemo stopped working on her three cancer spots so she’s moving on to the pill form, which we hope will work. I just don’t want to lose my mama. It’s scary and sad.
Biiggg Hug to you my friend. I’m also going through rough patch in my personal life. Don’t know when / how it will be fixed. I hope we’ll all make good life decisions going forward!!
I’ll give a group hug ((((((U)))))) as long as it isn’t too tight. My abdomen is still really sore from my sigmoid blowout 6 weeks ago. I’m just starting to eat food again.
I sure wish I knew why this happened. According to the colon surgeon nobody knows.
@MrGrimm888 Oh man… That really piled on quickly. You are a pretty resilient guy. I’m sure you’ll make it. Get some exercise while you’re waiting for things to settle.
If you’re bored and want to vacation on a farm at no cost I’m guessing @MooCows can really use the help.
(((HUGS))) all around.
I am suffering a lot myself.
My daughter doesn’t get discipline, and how it works. She tries to punish me when I discipline her.
Society is convincing kids that anything they don’t like is bullying.
I am being bounced around from doctor to doctor, new prescriptions piling up, and social security is throwing new doctor visits at me to prove I am still disabled.
Man, I can’t even bring myself to go over more of what faces me.
My gosh, we need some happy day action around here, don’t we?
@MrGrimm888 Here is a wonderful group hug! One can’t have too many hugs. I hope these hugs lift your spirits and ease you over the rough patch. :)
@Patty_Melt Big group hugs for you! We have an minimum daily requirement of at east one hug per day. And while we’re at it I sure could use a group hug too. It’s been a long time between hugs.
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@SergeantQueen About time you popped back by, haven’t seen any posts for awhile! :)
@KNOWITALL yes. I have been going through a lot recently. My life is getting back on track now I hope and I am ready to be as helpful and supportive as I can be here :)
@MrGrimm888 I’m so sorry you are struggling. You are such a good guy and you deserve the best. I’m with @chyna. Something great will come your way. Until then, hugs!
I had to choose between my father or my son. Do I move my family close to my father to help support him in his old age or do we move our son closer to the medical facilities he needs? My husband and I chose our son. We couldn’t win with either decision. My sister and I are trying to get him to move to Michigan with us. My sis moved up there last year. My father just can’t take the winters anymore. He will most likely move to Las Vegas where his two oldest daughters live. They want to care for him and his heart is out west, but I’m a huge daddy’s girl and have lived near him my entire adult life. I’m really going to miss seeing him.
We are trying to do too much before our move. We need to move before the new school year starts in late August. I don’t have worries about my husband finding work because there are many jobs where we are going, but I do worry about finding an affordable rental for us that will accept all of our pets. This is a huge struggle. We also need to get our son’s name and gender marker changed before our move. He has many medical appointments the next few months and most of those are in Chicago which is 4 hours from us. We’ve learned that our son’s medical care is going to include lifelong treatment and it won’t be cheap. We are already $16k in debt from the past few years of health issues both Jon and I have.
The struggle never ends. There’s always something. It would be nice to get a break for once. Hugs are always helpful!
Hugs!
And, I would look at that as finding out the truth early that that girl/manager/job was actually not workable and would have become awful sooner or later, so better to find out sooner!
You dodged a potential huge investment in something that wasn’t going to turn out well. That’s good, and as far as I know, not about you being stupid. It’s also a clue to your attraction pattern and hopefully useful for detecting and avoiding the same thing in future, if you figure out what makes that tick for you.
It’s a good position to look at what you really want to create next. Here’s to the next chapter!
~~~ HUG AND KISS ON CHEEK~~
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Thanks for the support everyone.
As for @MooCows . I’m so sorry for your situation. I was telling Luckyguy, I had to sell all my remaining possession’s (stuff that wasn’t destroyed by the 3 floods I endured ) just to get my deposit for my new rental house. All of my guns. Even my car stereo. If you live on a farm, maybe some old rusty stuff would be attractive to someone on ebay. I used to watch American Pickers. They sold all kinds of stuff I would consider junk. Just a thought. I do hope things get better.
((Hugs all around))
Peace n love.
Just saw this. I hope I’m not too late. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, @MrGrimm888.
It’s not too late. Thanks.
Aw, hell, I’m sorry to hear that Grimmie. I had read your posts where you said you’d gotten a new job and were so excited about it, and I was so excited for you. That really sucks.
My complaints are not major these days, but I won’t pass up a hug. I’m getting really sick of being nauseous and unable to eat most of the time. For 3 months now I’ve been slowly tapering off of an appetite stimulant that I’ve been on for about 7 years. My body does NOT want to let it go. Seems like I’m getting a new withdrawal symptom every week. Just want to be done with it.
Hugs to all my jellies.
(((((HUGS)))))
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Such pure happiness, and love, is a beautiful thing.
If it makes you feel any better…
Just realized this may be what you mean by “showing yourself more” earlier.
We can now get to see the real fearless Grimm!
^Maybe…..Wouldn’t have let on about such dirty laundry, a month ago. Wouldn’t have made the bad decisions about this girl….
To clarify, I don’t mean to offend you, really. I’m just glad that you have decided to vent about what bothered you instead of bottling it up. It’s actually a good decision. No one should suffer alone. We all need to vent once in a while.
@MrGrimm888 In order make it through on of those “what was I thinking” relationships, I chose to look at them as teachable moments!!! It’s only a disaster IF you learn nothing from it. So, look at this in an HONEST straight forward way & looking back, what signs did you miss or ignore simply because you wanted her to be PERFECT???
Believe me when I say that I have ignored many a clear warning only to wonder what it was that I missed!!! It’s hard to look yourself in the eye & be brutally honest; but, it is a good way to learn to protect yourself!!!
You have to EXPERIENCE the pains in life to know when & how to avoid them!!! You only learn by doing it wrong atleast once!!! It helps IF you don’t keep count of the mistakes you’ve made; but accept each one as a life’s lesson. In time all these little lessons add up & you will meet & be READY to accept the PERFECT person for you!!!
Sadly, life continues on whether we’re ready or not. You now have choices to make…you can choose to be miserable forever…OR you can choose to accept that you deserve better & work toward that goal. YOU are in control of YOUR own happiness; so STOP giving the dingaling any power over you. SHE’S HISTORY & THE BEST IS YET TO COME!!!
All I can say is this group is SUPER AWESOME and yes aas long as we can hang on to the farm you ALL are invited to come out…..pick out a cow and pay the lady on the way out! lol
@MooCows Our friends in EO had cows and we’d camp in their pasture. The cows seemed so huge. I was always afraid that one would lumber through a tent.
Lol^^
I never feared cows, but I never pressed my luck when I saw one looking at me with its head down low.
I spent a summer with the DOT years ago. I had one project where I had to stand around on a shoulder where we were re topping a highway. It was rural, and there were cows. They saw me, and casually wandered to the fence. They were grazing, but they kept looking at me like they were waiting.
My job was to take load receipts from drivers as they showed up with concrete, so I was standing around most of the time with nothing else to do.
I started talking to the cows. As the project moved forward, I walked along to be handy as more loads came.
Those goofy cattle moseyed along with me, grazing, and listening to my speeches.
If ever anyone has a public speaking occasion that they would like a practice audience, I highly recommend cattle.
Have you ever herded cows? Rick and have, a couple of times, with the Suburban.
I was raised on a farm; so I didn’t need a suburban to herd them. I’ve mucked stalls, stepped in warm patties, milked a cow, & birthed a calf. Since I was the one who usually fed & watered them, they heard my voice & they came trotting. Have you ever tried to stop a cow who needs to be milked??? She’ll run right over you to get into her stall!!!
Well, we came across a about 8 cows scattered on the highway so we chased them back to their farm. Rick was on foot and I used the Suburban to block any cows that wanted to made a run for it.
I used to get drunk at the state Fair, and hang out in the farm animals area. One year, there was a tan cow with big long ears. She was very sweet, and we hung out for a while. I thought hard about buying her. Luckily, I didn’t. I lived in an apartment then. I am fairly certain that I would have had regrets when I woke up with a cow in my living room. She was really cool though.
I love goats. I have always said that I would have a couple one day…
I have a good Drunken Fair story!
OK, just realized that we’ve gone from hugging @MrGrimm888‘s sad heart to discussing cows & now on to drunken fair stories. It will be interesting to see where this leads!!!
Cows have a place in my heart. Besides. The point of the thread, was to help all of us feel better. Let the drunken feel good stories rain!
I agree. It just amazed me how around the world this post has gone.
Ever tip a cow???
Cows make lousy waitresses. And, if I ordered a salad, she would eat it before she got to my table.
I generally don’t tip cows.
No. No cow tipping. That doesn’t jive with my way of life. I may have eaten some things that grew on their feces, as a teen though….
My favorite line from Twister,
We got cows.
If this thread is here to make us feel better…
I had a bad day today and I would like a cow to kiss me.
No you don’t. They are never without globs of thick, grassy mucous.
Giving one a hug is pretty special.
I just love looking at their beautiful big eyes.
I will help you feel better. Let’s take a couple of Tommy guns to the target range.
I got you Mimi. I’m not a cow, but I’m a huge man. No kiss, but I got hugs. My arms will shield you from anything. You want to talk about it? Your bad day?... We’re all on this thread for support. I bet we can at least help you vent…
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@MrGrimm888 well I felt pretty pissed off and helpless this morning. Long story short, there is going to be a promotion event at my center. On the surface it looks like a work of everyone, but in reality it’s a one-man show. The bitch in charge of the thing is the same bitch I talked about. Everything went her way and she just gave work to people, no question asked. There is a lot of stupidity in her planning, like the whole concept of showing kids around the center then playing a half-assed game then expecting them to become future customers, or the idea of getting hundreds of very young kids going up a tiny staircase with only 4 people supervising and no parent allowed. But that’s her one-man show, no one questioned her and everyone was expected to shut up and work. I couldn’t say anything. I was forced to watch the whole thing going.
But well, I’m in your arms now. They are big enough for me to snuggle and calm down :)
@LadyMarissa I WANT ALL THE COWS TO STEP OUT OF THE SCREEN!
Drunken Fair Story:
When we owned the mower shop Rick and I always set up a booth at the fair. Long hours, lotta work, lotta fun. And hot, boy. Hot. 100+ . We chugged Gatorade,water, lemonade almost non stop. So we spent the day selling and pitching our stuff. Then, after dark, the partiers came out and the farmers went home. So, the first night we went to the liquor store and asked what booze goes good with Gatorade. He suggested vodka.
So, to be sneaky we mixed a half pint of vodka into a large, half empty thing of Gatoraid to be used as a discrete mixer. It looked like regular blue Gatorade just watered down a little bit.
So, got it all set up, and put into the cooler and we were good to go.
Then one last potential customer showed up and Rick did his sales pitch for about 30 minutes.
Then he came back, sweating, sat down, reached into the cooler and grabbed our mixer and just started chugging.
I thought, “How rude!”
I shook my head and glanced away. Glanced back and Rick was frozen in the act of moving the empty mixer away from his mouth, a look of absolute shock on his face. He had chugged it ALL in a matter of seconds!!!
”THAT WAS AN ENTIRE HALF PINT OF VODKA YOU JUST CHUGGED, RICK!!!”!!
He nodded mutely. I realized that he’d forgotten about the mixer and it was a complete accident and I just cracked up!
He finally came back around, gasping, almost unable to talk. It was SO freaking funny! He said it was like a 4 alarm fire suddenly hit his throat!
Fortunately he holds his liquor well. He just got silly. He made a comment about an argument we’d had the day before.
I said, “It wasn’t funny, Rick.”
He said, giggling, “It is now!”
It was kind of fun watching him get drunk, like, super fast!!
We’ve definitely mixed gatorade, and rum here. It’s the way to go in the heat.
Mimi. If I had a nickel, for every time a superior was doing things wrong, I’d be rich. I feel your pain. Keep your chin up.
Yeah. The whole thing was already stupid in the beginning. What really pissed me off is that she didn’t disclose anything to anyone involved, and even now there are some crucial parts of the event that I don’t know. It’s like she deliberately prevent people from knowing too much to get them to do what she wanted.
Not to mention some false advertisement along the way too, and some hilarious reasoning like how she was concerned about how to attach name tags so that them don’t damage the kids’ clothes and offend parents, but failed to realize that parents of a 4-year-old wouldn’t like to let their child go with some strangers without their supervision.
But yeah, nothing I can do now. I just have to wait for that day and see what happens. And I really hope no shitty unexpected thing will happen because the bitch will likely to put all the blame on me not doing my job rather than her poor planning.
Sounds like you could maybe benefit from finding a different job, or place to do the same job.
I was sick of my old job, so I moved to a different profession. I can’t say it’s gone well yet, but I’m hopeful. And at least I won’t have to hurt anyone, or be hurt, or risk being killed, or killing someone. I’m sure that I’ll develop some things that I hate in bartending. But the money should make it worth it…
Mimi. I don’t recall if you jog, or work out. But a long run, or a long day at the gym, can help.
I’m going to take a long fishing trip in my canoe soon. The bream are bitting, and I am hungry for fish.
Having something, like a hobby, can help drain your stress. Maybe you could find something that will help you out.
I play guitar, work out, paddle/fish, and do some drawing, to balance myself out…
Hey, start a cartoon strip with her being the villain! Or better yet, make her a victim and no heroes want to bother saving her. Lol
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