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Do people always find it hard to move forward from disinterest?

Asked by Heather13 (495points) June 5th, 2018

If someone who had a crush on another person, felt rejected by that person, why would they hold a grudge after 3 years? They did not ask the person out. But dropped “I love you” lines here and there. But this was not taken seriously. So this other person felt hurt. Buy even after they “moved” on to another person, who is a mutual acquaintance, they still behave hurt by the other person. They even go as far as joining someone else in teasing the person they said they loved. When the person is by themselves, they stare at this person. And if they try to talk to them, they reply annoyed or walk away. And only say things to hurt this person. Even after so long, and being in a new happy relationship, they treat the person they had a crush on like a stranger and enemy. Why would anyone do that?

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chyna's avatar

Teen angst.

chyna (51628points)“Great Answer” (3points) Flag as…
kritiper's avatar

Once burned, twice shy.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

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MrGrimm888's avatar

I personally will hold a grudge forever. If I perceive a girl to have hurt me, I will never forgive them. Life’s too short. There are a number of girls that I haven’t spoken to in years, and never will. I am not mean to them, but I will never even make eye contact with them again. They are dead to me…

I used to try and get over things with women who wronged me, but that didn’t help. Now I just remove them from my life, as best as possible, like a cancer.

This is more for ex-lovers, disinterest is not that relevant to me. If a girl leads me on, and/or uses me, and then tries to put me in the friend zone, I will likely cut her out of my life too. They can always find another guy to use…

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stanleybmanly's avatar

Don’t waste your time trying to unravel the knots in the pathologies of desire. There are as many varieties in these tangles as there are personalities.

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