What do I do in this situation with my gf?

I feel sorry for her. She must feel like she’s there to do a job.

Only you can judge whether the girlfriend is a keeper minus the “special services”. I strongly suspect that regardless of your answer to that question, professional therapy can’t hurt.

It was her fault for not being honest about her personal feeling regarding your fetish in the first place. But you know what? She did all those things for your own happiness and now that she couldn’t endure it anymore she comes straight at you.

I’ll just get to the point. Either you reach a compromise with her regarding what fetish you both could enjoy, or end the relationship if such fetish is really a big part of your life that you can’t go without.

Your fetish seems to be more important to you than she is. If you still want to be with her, find a way to get over it.

The two of you seem to be sexually incompatible.

You can either work it out with her for you to continue to have a relationship while getting your kink on somewhere else, or you break it off and find a partner you are compatible with.

Just realized I am saying the same thing as @Unofficial_Member.

For starters, you do NOT love her. You love the kinks fulfillment that she was willing to provide!!! Maybe she thought that she could enjoy your kinks but over time they have become boring/mundane to her.

IF you truly loved her, you would be fulfilled with the love you have for her & your kinks would fall to the back burner. Although she might also feel an attachment to you, I don’t think that she’s in love with you. IF she was in love with you, she’d still find it exciting to feel your excitements while kinking!!!

Has your need for your kink made her feel less needed??? Has your kink become more important to you than she has???

You two need t sit down & discuss your love for each other…NOT love of kinks!!! Maybe she has fallen out of love with you & doesn’t know how to tell you. It doesn’t matter how much you love her…IF she doesn’t love you back then you two have nothing!!!

You cannot make anyone do anything that they are uncomfortable with or anything period. You cannot control another’s behavior.

It sounds as if your girlfriend really liked you and was willing to give your preferences a try, but she may have started to wonder if you love her for herself or only because she accepted your fetishes, Or she just may have decided she didn’t care for making your fetishes always the focus of your and her love life. Whatever, she has said no more.

You have only one decision left to make. Do you still love her and want her if she will not accommodate your fetishes or, if not, you must move on. She will not change her mind about this.

When a person wants people to jump threw hoops and do whatever they want its time to leave them to enter into a mature relationship where there is give and take balance.
The person who performs acrobats in sex is not confident enough nor mature enough to realize that caring lovingly for another involves Loving enough to please another provided that they enjoy it as well. When its no longer enjoyable and becomes demanding it takes on a master slave relationship of which no one should lower their standards for to become someones sex slave.
Perhaps she was curious and then realized that its not for her as the experiment stage is over for her but not for you. Sometimes people use others to try different things to experience different feelings, this wears off in time however when it does not wear off it becomes an obsession.More like a person dominating another.Seek therapy to discover where this need started and why it has to continue. usually its a control issue and comes from your background ,possibly dominating mother etc. I don’t blame the girlfriend at least she had the courage to leave when she did. Grow up…others are not there for your pleasure.

Fetishes usually disappear when one enters a real relationship.

Allow me to explain what’s going on here, rather than give advice.

Your girlfriend went along with your fetish because it turns YOU on, and was either a loving service to you, or it turns her on to see you turned on. Or, maybe she really thought she could share it with you somehow.

However, it does absolutely NOTHING for her sexually or even helps her relate to you socially. It probably even turns her off or weirds her out a little Or, maybe it comes between you and her because you are more into your fetish than you are into her.

She gets nothing out of the deal. Again, it does nothing for her, or turns her off a bit, or comes between you and her,

Your girlfriend knows that real love is more real than a fetish, which is mainly in your imagination, personal experience, or psychological make-up

I cannot imagine leaving someone I love over a fetish. Consign your fetish or fantasies to your imagination, and have a real relationship with your girlfriend. Or, let her go and keep your fetish.

Can this fetish be found on porn sites? Can you fulfill your fantasies that way? Sexual fetishes and preferences can change over time and you certainly can’t force her to do things she’s uncomfortable with. She’s made it clear she’s no longer enjoying what you enjoy. It’s time to think about her happiness and not just your own. If saving the relationship is more important to you than satisfying your fetish, you’ll compromise.

Unlike pornography, fetishes cannot be satisfied by the internet or looking at pictures.

Fetishes have to be done TO you.
And normally, not even in communities.
You must be the victim, target, or sole receiver of the treatment.

This is why BSDM (bondage relationships; Sado-Masochistic relationships) work so well, if one partner is willing to play one roll and the other partner is willing to play the other.

But most fetishes, when played out, loose their appeal for one partner or the other or both. Or, they are simply too much WORK.

Lets say someone has a diaper fetish, and really finds joy and fulfillment in wearing diapers and having his (it is usually he) lover change him. Well, he may get a boner from this. But to her, its more like nursing home duty. If one partner or another likes being a slave, then very soon, the slave finds that there is nothing really sexual about this fantasy. The slave is just doing mundane, tiring, boring, menial labor.

Most fetishes are messy and/or require a lot of prep work or clean-up and are not exactly fun for one participant or the other. And if they become a way of life, they just become a lot of extra work without much gratification.

They are usually better in the imagination and fantasy stages than in carrying them out,.

You can’t ‘do’ anything with your girlfriend because she is a human being that needs to make the decision for herself. If she loves you, she will choose to be with you. If she chooses to follow what her family wants instead then that is what will happen. The only thing you can do is show her that you love her and will treat her better than any other man.

@YoobBloob has left us. Don’t know IF he was a troll or just didn’t like our advice; but, he’s dropped the mic!!!