Is there something wrong with me?

Think what it would be like living long term with someone who thinks about and treats you like you treat him.

Now answer your own question… Whatcha’ gonna do about it?

Instinct motivates forming relationships for reproduction and nurturing offspring. This drive can be experienced before the onset of adolescence. However, regardless of your age there is nothing wrong with you. This non-conscious emotional desire can mask rational recognition of the full reality of a relationship, leaving only positive aspects experienced. When separated from the significant other, the desire to restore the feelings that one has when together is felt, but when together a vague sense may arise that aspects of the other person conflicts with fanciful projections of a future together.

You have to think things through. Don’t be so hard on yourself. There has to be a reason for why you get angry at him. Are you afraid of losing your freedom? See if you can uncover what is really upsetting you.

Sounds like you’re bored already. It happens. Warm and safe are your words, maybe you need hot and dangerous lol

but when we’re not together i dont want someone else. he makes me feel like no one else. i dont know, i feel like all i do is hurt him

@Yin Just try to be friends til you can stop being mean. He deserves better than to be treated badly, unless he likes it, which may not be healthy.

i know he deserves better. i cant just stop this. it’s like it has a hold of me and i dont want to do it but i do and it eats at my soul

Then get help. Maybe its a chemical imbalance, or spiritual imbalance.

Ahh, youth! Thank goodness I’m ready to be put put to pasture to sit in a rocking chair and slobber on myself. Beats hell out of all those raging hormones and that youthful angst.

It sounds like you have some issues, that may or may not be related to your boyfriend. I’m pretty sure you already know whether or not your boyfriend is contributing to your anger.

Does he do things that make you angry? If not, then you may have to do some work on yourself.

Sometimes people end up feeling periodically angry if they have bipolar disorder. I had the misfortune of being in 2 separate relationships with (and worked with two other people) who suffered from bipolar disorder (also sometimes called manic depression). All 4 of these people were intelligent, interesting people, but they could go from being happy and funny, to angry and mean, in the flash of an instant.

Do you feel like you snap back and forth?

Also, people who have been in bad relationships before, can sometimes act as though they are “certain” that their new love interest is going to eventually treat them badly, so they preempt that potential situation by getting angry at the new person, even if the new person hasn’t done anything to deserve the anger.

Does this sound like what you might be doing?

Still other people simply have very short fuses (maybe some immaturity or insecurity thrown into the mix) and have problems controlling their temper.

Does this sound like how you feel?

Any of these problems can, and should be, examined, otherwise nothing will change, or it will just get worse.

If your boyfriend truly is a good guy, then he doesn’t deserve this treatment.

I would suggest making an appointment with a therapist to see what’s going on with you. Sometimes, a few sessions with a good therapist (sometimes you have to try out a few before you get a good match for yourself) can be immensely helpful.

If you have more of a medical problem, such as bipolar disorder, a therapist can get you hooked up with the right kind of doctor to find a combination of psychological therapy, and/or meds, to help you to be on a more even keel.

If the problem really is related to your boyfriend (or both of you) simply not being compatible enough, you should either seek couples counseling, or go your separate ways.

I wish you the best of luck.

An old relationship sometimes reaches a saturation point. You need to check whether this is happening with your relationship. Some detox will help to overcome it like a solo trip to change your mood and surrounding. Total break up would be a bad choice. You can take a temporary break, away from him and come back. Of course, you need to inform him about your plan and reason to do so. If he loves you, he will give you that space needed and you can start afresh after your return.