Mothers...Would you allow your adult son to crawl in bed with you for the night?

It seems odd but I don’t think we have enough information to judge (and I don’t have a need to.) Perhaps he has been suicidal and this prevents that.

Just bone creeping weird,nothing else to say.
Don’t even know if that’s legal in your country or mine.

Echoing @janbb. We really know nothing about it, and I am not one to judge this. Just because he crawls into bed with her doesn’t mean there is anything inappropriate going on.

@janbb She gave no indication that he has any suicidal tendencies. She said it started when he was a baby & has continued into adulthood. Then she laughed & said she had spoiled him rotten. My Mother didn’t believe in having a baby in her bed. Infants slept in their own bassinet placed in the same room as they were NO baby monitors way back then!!! Once we started school, we just had to deal with whatever was bothering us as we weren’t allowed to crawl in our parents bed.

I had to share a bedroom with my dad till grade 4. creeped me out. Wasn’t enough bedrooms for all the siblings to each have a room for themselves .I didn’t like that he would hold me at night. For a time I slept in a folding cot . Until I outgrew it and had to sleep with my dad for 2 years in the king sized waterbed. I slept on the edge and sometimes off the edge of the bed. When my sisters moved out I got both rooms for myself. I turned one into a study room and another for sleeping.

@canidmajor I never said that I thought anything inappropriate was going on. I simply find it strange that a 26 y/o man wants to sleep with his mother!!! I had a cousin who sucked his thumb until he was 30 & I found that to be a bit odd also!!!

@RedDeerGuy1 Your situation was done out of necessity. This guy lives in his own house & drives over to Mom’s house simply to crawl in bed with her. Dad left her years ago.

When I was young, my Grandparents had 8 grand kids & 3 bedrooms. The adult spouses got the beds & the kids had a quilt thrown on the floor with a pillow & a sheet. If it was really cold, we also got a top blanket. We were told that we were roughing it for the night.

@LadyMarissa If he is disabled, and it provides relief ( like being afriad of the dark ) then fine. Consenting adults who are not hurting anyone can do what they please. In a popular magazine ten years ago talked about breast feeding a young child till 9 years old. I lived at home till 35 years old. I felt safe knowing that my mom was around. Now I have anxiety from time to time for having to be alone and having to fend for myself. On the flip side I can order out anytime with out sharing or compromising for what to eat.

Gross.

That’s my reaction going solely by the information in this question. Considering how unusual this is, I could assume there’s “more to the story”, but I’m not gonna.

I never slept in anyone else’s bed other than the rare times I had to share a bed in a motel room because there was limited room.

Odd…just, odd.

@Demosthenes The mother gave no other details except she kept saying over & over that she had spoiled him rotten. I wasn’t trying to be nosy; but she was standing maybe a foot or less in front of me & she wasn’t speaking very quiet. I do believe that IF he was my son, I’d keep my flipping mouth shut & not be telling strangers about it!!!

@RedDeerGuy1 Mom gave no indication of any disability & I’m really NOT trying to say they are doing anything wrong as mom also didn’t indicate that they were being intimate. In the US, consenting adults who are not hurting anyone can do as they please UNLESS they are blood kin 3rd cousins or closer. So father/daughter, brother/sister. cousin/cousin, aunt/nephew, uncle/niece , etc would be illegal. Surely this mother wouldn’t be announcing at work that she was breaking the law with her son. The whole thing sounded a bit creepy to me even without breaking the law!!!

Sounds unhealthy and codependent.

Sounds like the beginning of a nasty porn….

Bates Motel?

I think it is no one’s business.

It would certainly creep me out, but people take comfort wherever they can get it. That not telling strangers sounds prudent to me.

@MollyMcGuire I agree with you & it was none of MY business until the mother announced it to the whole restaurant & then she put it out there to become everyone’s business!!! I didn’t care until I heard it & since then I can’t seem to unhear it!!!

Takes all kinds I guess.

I hugged both my mom and my dad, last Tuesday.
In a vertical position.
Is that frowned upon?
Think of it, what really changes if people hug each other horizontally?
A lot of our apparent disgust, I feel, is in our heads.
When a parent is in hospital, or worse, a hospice, we may give them a hug to comfort them, or to say goodbye.
It all depends, in my opinion, on the circumstances.
And we don’t know nothing about them in this example.

That’s an individual’s choice to decide where to sleep. However, it is unusual for a grown up adult to sleep in the same bed as his mother’s. Might be some rare case or like the lady said “She has spoilt her son too much”.

@rebbel I don’t think you can compare this to a hug. For one thing, the average hug lasts seconds (according to recent studies). Not quite the same as sleeping through the night!

@Demosthenes, and a hug involves close touching and sleeping through the night does not, necessarily.