What acts of kindness do you find annoying?

None, if they are sincerely meant.

When someone wishes me a blessed day.

That happened twice yesterday. I’m sure they’re being nice in their own way, but their blessings are something I neither need or want.

When someone tries to tell me how to live my life, especially when I don’t ask for it and when they think it’s the best advice out there. I know they mean well, but the advice comes from the assumption that I’m fucked up and I need to meet their standards to be normal. They just come off as judgemental and make me feel bad for my life decision.

@Mimishu1995: I find a big difference between someone offering unsolicited advice and an act of kindness.
I don’t think it is prompted by kindness if, as you say, it ”comes from the assumption that I’m fucked up and I need to meet their standards to be normal.”
That just sounds like petty interfering.

The OP sounds like an ex girlfriend I had. I tried to be a “gentleman,” and open doors, or carry heavy stuff. She didn’t like it… She stayed with men that beat her up occasionally. She preferred that… (not relating the OP to the last part.)

I don’t like when people want me to smile, in a professional setting that sucks.

A swat on the butt for a job well done. Like in sports…

Hell yeah! I always hated that.

This will sound terrible but I’m nothing if not honest with myself and ya’ll. I hate it when people invite me to church and I have to reply “I may visit sometime, thanks.’ I know they’re trying to be kind and invite me into their church family, but inside I cringe.

I want to ask: “Do you invite LGBTQ people into your church? or pray them straight?”
“Are you going to shame me because I work outside the home and chose not to have children?”
“Are you going to ask for my tax return if I join?”
“Are you going to stop by my house uninvited to check on me if I don’t show up?”

@MrGrimm888 You must not have read that I kind of exoectnen to help me with heavy bags, like on an airplane when I need to stow my suitcase above my head, and I ask my husband to hold the door for me when I’m getting in and out of the car if I’m in heals, or it’s a car low to the ground if he hasn’t offered already, he usually does.

If I’m reaching for something too high for me I want someone to help. If you hold the door for me, because you are at the door first, you get a big and sincere “thank you” with a smile from me.

I give away my seat to the elderly, the pregnant, and young children. When I do it, if a man is nearby I expect him to jump up to offer so I don’t have to. If he doesn’t, I choose to think maybe there is an actual physical reason he can’t, but if there isn’t one, he should have.

My husband walks on the curb side of the sidewalk when with me. My husband offers to help people all the time with carrying items, holding doors, he has all the etiquette down, and uses it.

My FIL is beyond etiquette to the point of annoying. I’ll be bringing things in from the car, he’ll offer, “can I bring anything in for you?” which I appreciate. Sometimes I take him up on it. Yesterday, I said “no thank I just have one more bag,” he followed me out, I already had the bag in my hand, and he tried to take it from me. I said, “no thank you, I have.” I did NOT want him to carry the bag. The. He starts getting the other stuff out of my car. I need that stuff to stay in my car. He makes extra work for me, and it’s hard for me to have to say “no” to him over and over again. I love that he offers, but no is no. It’s not like I never say yes.

My brother is a problem solver. It is part of his personality.

I used to think that he would offer advice because he was older, and I considered it condescending. Now I realise that he does this with everyone, and he is only sincerely trying to help. If I talk to him about an existing problem, I’ve learned to phrase it so he doesn’t feel the need to jump in with advice. Or I don’t mention it.

@Pied_Pfeffer I know a guy who is so helpful that you can’t carry on a normal conversation because every time you mention something like an obstacle, he interrupts with a way to fix it. A honest-to-goodness “Mr. Fix-it.”

When pulling up to a 4 way stop and some person gets to their stop sign a few seconds before I do, and instead of pulling out because they were there first they wave me on through and it drives me batty. STOP IT!

I know a guy who likes to create problems where there are none. Sigh .

@Dutchess_III That’s a good one, same here. Happens constantly! Even on the roundabouts!

@kritiper Ah, you’ve met my older brother.

@KNOWITALL Stupid!

And and and….when you come to an intersection and you have a stop sign but THEY DON’T AND THEY STOP ANYWAY AND MOTION YOU ON THROUGH!! I just sit there scowling at them.