Can one go to a funeral home and talk about death and dying?

Not during a funeral, of course. If you call first and make the request and make your intentions clear, I would think so.

It’s routine for them, and a great mystery and surprise and tribulation for most of us. I bet they have great insight.

If you’re looking for information I think they should be happy to talk to you.
But as @Call_Me_Jay just pointed out make sure they are free to do so.

Absolutely not. Completely taboo. The “D” word is not to be mentioned. “passing away” might be OK, or “moving beyond the veil”. You might also consider “heading for the last roundup” or “gone to a better place” or “joining the choir invisible” but don’t mention dying.

The “D” word is not to be mentioned.

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I’ve known a couple of people who worked in funeral homes. A high school friend lived above the family funeral home business.

“Dead, dispose, death, decompose, decay” – lots of “D” words are in their vocabulary. They “D“eal with it so we “D“on’t have to.

Why do you have to go there to discuss about it? It’s a universal truth which you can discuss with anyone unless they’re paranoid about it. What information you seek from them that’s not known to you?

@imrainmaker I am afraid of being alone. Fluther and my mom are the only people regularly in my life.

If you go to a funeral home to “talk about it” for information, they will most likely pressure you into buying a funeral package “so no one has to make decisions in a time of grief”.

They will try to sell you one for yourself or for your mom, or a package deal so that you are “together for eternity”.

Selling death and dying is their business, and it ain’t cheap.

I agree tgat their schtick will ultimately be to sell you something.

If your curious about dying, maybe talk to a hospice volunteer. Or, you could be a volunteer.

I think they are in the death business, not in the “let’s talk about dying” business. Forgive me if I misunderstand you. I’m sure they will happy to talk to you about someone dying, even yourself, if you are looking to buy what they are selling.

They might call the Good Humor boys in the white coats if you do. Better to just talk about post death and not pre death/dying. Like for your funeral arrangements/pre payment of funeral insurance.

A friend once told me that she was curious and had many questions. She contacted a local funeral home. They allowed her to hang out for a week or so to learn what they do and answer her questions.

In college, I took a course on Death and Dying. It was fascinating.

I thought you were an immortal time traveler. Why would you need to talk about death?

As people have mentioned above, please don’t do that during a funeral. Otherwise, I think it is a good think to talk to them. I think so because I haven’t interacted with people from that line of work, and I bet their insights and perspectives are interesting. I don’t mean their insights will necessarily blow our minds. I just mean that we may be able learn a thing or two.

I don’t think they would expect to be paid, although I may be wrong.