Have you gone along with your spouse even though you thought it was a bad idea?

The 2 of us have no conflicts on the big issues, and I submit to her tastes in things like furniture or the household car, because she will be driving it at least 80% of the time. I research and usually pick the major appliances. She always chooses the mattresses because I sleep comfortably on anything.

I think we have pretty well made our mistakes jointly since we married. I can’t think of a single thing she has suggested that went awry that wasn’t Hillary’s fault or that didn’t occur during the Obama era.

My ex-husband was always making large purchases, with my permission, until I realized he was never happy with anything. He would get a new truck and be out looking at other new trucks within a month. We bought a house because the one I had before we met wasn’t big enough. He was out looking for a new one within months. We had 4 campers, 2 boats, numerous trucks and 2 houses in 5 years. We were not rich. We were middle, even lower middle class. But he just kept spending money. When I put a stop on it he became increasingly unhappy . We divorced after 5 years. Nothing made him happy for long.

Luckily for me, I have always been proven wrong in such potential risky purchases. I am blessed to have a spouse, who makes calculative decisions. Even, though there have been large purchases, they turned out to be useful in the end. So, going along with my spouse is a safe bet for me.

Yes, my husband talked me into going ice fishing in Minnesota in January once. Was supposed to be nothing but fun, fun, fun. So I finally agreed to go. After huddling in a tent over a hole in a frozen lake for an hour I guzzled a 6 pack of beer and ate a half a bag of beef jerky. I waited for the fun to begin….it never showed up.

@chyna My husband is much the same way. I’d call him “high maintenance.” And he thinks paying bills is a waste of perfectly good money that could be spent on toys.

Ex husband tried to force me into signing an agreement for a Sports car that we could not afford at all.I refused but then he showed up with the car anyways..he forged my name and dealer let him have it. Two weeks later he was driving and waiting for a green light when he was back ended in that sports car… It never ran the same but he actually we got stuck with the payments for years! For some reason even though it was yellow sports car people kept hitting it even in the parking lot where a garbage truck backed into it..apparently sports cars are low to the ground therefore when others look in there rear view mirrors , they missed it.
From that first time my husband would purchase things for himself while me and the kids did without. I went to work as soon as the first child was four months old and that is how me and the kids survived. I divorced him after 11 years of his controlling behavior getting nothing .
The kids and I lived a much better life as i moved to a low rental condo and provided for all of us plus went back to school upgraded and went on to college with student loans.

Big purchases are usually a joint effort. Other things, like where to go for vacation I’m pretty flexible on. I’d be happy going to Costa Rica, touring the USA, or staying at home and working in the yard and doing touristy things in our area. Generally, if I feel very strongly about something, she will go along with me. If she has a great desire for something, I will go along with her. Sometimes, a choice has a big downside and we have to talk it through.

I don’t need a spouse to make bad decisions. I can do that all by myself. And I hate it! I end up kicking myself for all time…

Thanks to everyone so far. GA’s for all.