(NSFW) how do you deal with premature ejaculation in a relationship?
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August 23rd, 2018
It’s awkward obviously. I don’t know if I need to elaborate much more, the question sort of asks itself. I could go into more detail about my current situation and problem but I don’t think I need to. I just want general advice. I’m a woman, and I am extremely sexually attracted to my boyfriend. I want him all the time. But it rarely lasts longer than a few seconds. Sometimes we don’t even make it to the penetration! I have had this problem in quite a few long term relationships before. I know sex isn’t everything, but it is pretty fantastic, and premature ejaculation isn’t. So…..is there anything we can do?
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Well. Are you practicing safe sex? A condom removes most of the feeling, and has other utilities. Try using thicker condoms, if you already use them.
Maybe different positions, or more/less foreplay.
I am pretty “thick.” It took me years, to understand that more lubrication, would help me last longer, and cause the girl less discomfort. Lube, of any sort, could make it “less intense,” for your partner. It’s the penetration. That’s always hardest, for me. If I can get past that, I can build a rhythm, and last longer…
More lube. Less friction. Less feeling.
Practice is important too.
You’re both young. Consider the first one a prelube. Give him a few minutes to reset, and do it again. He will last longer. Do it again.
Hi @deni! Missed you!
You are just too darn sexy for your guy to last long. @luckyguy has it right. Rest a few minutes and go again.
Talk to your boyfriend about various sex activities besides penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. Focus more on your enjoyment before his.
You already know he can climax without difficulty; is he helping you to climax? Is he givng you oral stimulation? Once you have orgasmed, you can jump on him and finish him off.
This isn’t very sexy but it may help. Maybe he can masturbate a little while before you are going to have sex or as others have said, have him come some way and then continue to play around by pleasuring you until he is ready to have an erection again. But also definitely making the entry as easy as possible with lubrication should help some. Also, despite what the books say, sometimes a disproportion between the size of the penis (too big) and the size of the vagina is an impediment.
Have your SO pound his pud the night before you are going to have sex.
Sorry to hear he has a hair trigger.
Is he able to preform again soon after?
^Do we know the age, of the OP, or her lover?
I would guess she’s around 30 now.
When I had this issue I found that rubbing a small amount of toothache medicine all over the head of my penus completely solved the problem. I used something like “Orajel” with 10% to 20% benzocaine. My woman friend didn’t like condoms. After a month or two I didn’t need the toothache medicine anymore.
Good health!
^Lol. I know my brother bought this tube of stuff called Anal-ease. It was supposed to numb the girl’s butt.
It didn’t get him any butt sex from his wife. But they use it for joint pain all the time…
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