How do you know if he just wants sex?

Wait 5 more months. If he’s still around, he’s into you. (no pun intended!)

It’s too bad that there are societal penalties to sexual attraction when so huge a proportion of the economy is dedicated to its promotion and fulfillment. The logical solution to your dilemma would be to restrict your interest to the fellas chasing the “ugly” girls.

Time, give it a couple months. If he is still around then take him seriously. Don’t wait 5 though, he’ll be gone if he has half a brain after that long.

~How a guys young man’s mind works.
First:
Can It kill me?
Can I eat it?
Can I NSFW it?
if no then ignore.

I would wait a bit. Yeah, 5 months, is a deal breaker here. But the girl makes the rules for her body, so don’t feel forced into anything.

I have a high sex drive. I didn’t really understand that until a few years ago. It has caused problems, with relationships. I felt/feel it’s natural for a man to want to be with a girl he’s attracted to. Especially if he has feelings for her. I find that women too often make this an either or thing. That’s just not the case, sometimes. It is plausible, that a man would like a girl, and want to have lots of sex with her.

When I have a serious girlfriend, we’re talking sex, multiple times a day, each day we’re together. The more I like them, the stronger the urge. My experience, is that the girls love it, for a period of time (months/years) then, I get the questions about if I just want sex. That’s confusing to me. That usually starts to make me think I should have more than one girlfriend at a time, so they don’t feel this way. But I don’t want that. I just want the girl I like, frequently… I guess that’s a problem… I don’t know.

I guess I’m just saying that you shouldn’t be upset with a love interest wanting to be intimate with you. Could he be just trying to take your virginity? Sure. Or. You could be the one using him…

You must assume that it is true. Wait 6 more months. Or longer…
If he can’t wait that long he wasn’t into you anyway.

Has he had sex before? If so, make sure he doesn’t have an STD. If he really is into you, he will do this.
One month is early to lose tour virginity. Wait a couple months, at least. If he’s into you, he will wait.

LOL! I lost my virginity at a drive in to a guy I wasn’t even in love with. We’d only dated a month or so. But, I planned it so….in the end, he thought losing my virginity was a MUCH bigger deal than I did. He was just so over-impressed with himself.

With guys who I felt I could actually have a “future” with, 6 months was the mark for me.

Keep in mind. There’s a lot of stuff, that isn’t penetration, and will be fun and can help a guy wait. They are fun for both.

Above all, do not let him guilt trip you into having sex. If he says he’s going to leave if you don’t give in, open the door for him. It’s hard, but nothing will destroy your self confidence faster than a man who has convinced you he loves you, then walks away as soon as he’s had his orgasm. . Men / boys can be terribly convincing with their assertions of LOVE and the desperate compliments and the promise of marriage. Many of them will literally say almost anything in a desperate quest for sex.

There’s some truth to that. When I was younger, I would say whatever I thought would get me laid…

I thought that was how a man was supposed to act. I was wrong…

That realization was real shocker to us girls because we don’t feel that way at all. It’s not that we don’t like or want sex, it’s that we won’t do anything in the world to get it.

It leads you to speculate on the number of men whose lives are destroyed by the stupidity resulting from those compulsions.

Unless they contracted some fatal STD I can’t imagine any man thinking his life was destroyed from sex, unless it was illegal sex. Could you explain that?

People think it is women and resulting children whose lives are ruined due to men being drug around by their equipment. Don’t get me wrong. The devastation inflicted on the women and abused children in the path of that rampaging equipment is horrific, but no man with a conscience escapes unscathed or economically unaffected.

Thanks @stanleybmanly. Although I wouldn’t call have a child “destroying” a life. Altering it drastically, sure.

To the OP: You best plan this. Pick a date and get on some form of birth control the month before. Do not just “let it happen,” although he doesn’t need to know that.

Often it is the child whose life is made arduous and miserable through parents unequipped for parenthood. None of us would have any trouble generating on the spot a long list of people with no business rearing kids.

I have to agree. I did my level best to give the kids the best of what I could after their dad abandoned them. God that was painful for them, and, of course, left us in poverty. I hope I was able to mitigate some of the pain for them.

Unfortunately, we have yet to invent the truth-o-meter app so the best you can do is rely on your instincts and experiences and those of your real friends. What do you think? Is he the kind who is just after sex? How many previous GF’s has he had? Are any of them still around? How do your friends feel about the guy? Do you have mutual friends who can weigh in?
FWIW when I read that he just wants to make you happy. And sex. My initial thought was “Aha! Now we get to the real wants and needs”.

I thought that too, and it was unkind, I guess. I thought what he really meant is he wasn’t to make himself happy through sex.

Sex feels good. I love making a girl feel good. Just because a guy wants sex, doesn’t mean he’s gonna smash n dash…