How did this happen to my friend?

My husband has epilepsy, and seizures without help can be violent on a body. She’s lucky she didn’t die. When the body drops and convulses, you could drop on a knife, in water, break glass or like someone in our area, wreck due to seizures while driving. They should really have someone living there with them or 24 hour care imo. When my husband had his first he fell face first into a pile of really hard treated lumber and looked like he’d went a few rounds with Mike Tyson.

Thank you; I never thought she could have had her second grand Mal seizure. And now that I think of it she did tell me she bit her tongue on both sides.
I think you have the answer, @KNOWITALL They did have a woman living there but she charged $150 a day so they let her go after almost a week.

150.00 a day is robbery!
Maybe they need to look into an assisted living.

They have looked at a great place but he refuses to leave his home and cat. They need a doctor who, in conjunction with the man’s daughter insist that they go and live there.

@Aster Well first she needs to find out why she’s having seizures and get a diagnosis and medication like Keppra to prevent any more.

If the seizures are under control it may buy them more time at home and independent though.

She fell, hit her head on the way to the floor, and when she hit the floor.

@kritiper sorry; I don’t understand. Her face is swollen and the back of her head has half a dozen staples. She’s very dizzy today she says.

If her husband won’t go to a nursing home then she should go on her own and perhaps he will join her later when he realizes that she is not there to look after him.
One day she will die trying to help him and is he able to look after her ?
Nine times out of ten I have heard stories that its the caregiver who ends up sicker than the one he she is caring for.
She definitely needs to get care for herself as he cannot provide it for her adequately.
Intervention required before she dies.

She told me she would never leave him. But , then she is also nuts over their cat and house.
No; he is unable to look after her. He has a brain tumor. Luckily? his daughter lives five minutes away and spends many hours a day with them. The main care she needs now I think is sleep. But with her accidents and his recent stroke it’s hard to accomplish.
She has made it fairly clear to me that she wouldn’t mind dying .

$150 a day for 24 hours is $6.25 an hour. Yup, it’s robbery, all right—for somebody. Maybe for the person who is expected to take life-and-death responsibility for someone, including heavy lifting, possibly intimate cleaning, feeding, friendly companionship, and maybe even putting up with verbal abuse.

A quick Google check says that an average hourly rate for private in-home care is 3 times that—in the range from $15 to $25 per hour. So if they got a helper for $150 a day, it was a huge bargain.

Doesn’t mean they can afford it, of course, but that’s a different question.

@jeruba She said the woman was living there. So if she has free room and board but is charging 150.00 a day, yes, to me that’s robbery. I doubt she waited on them 24 hours a day.

@Aster
Perhaps the daughter can be the caregiver and paid ?
Does the daughter work?
If not then a perfect solution if she is willing and able ?
I remember a lady telling me of how her parents handled it within their own family should they become to ill to look after themselves.
The parents gathered all there adult children together and outlined a plan for their future which ended in an agreement with all the siblings.
It was an agreement that the adult family that wants to live with the parents in the parents home and tend to them until they pass on that that adult family will inherit the parents home.
The others wold get inheritances.
It worked wonderfully and everyone was happy with no misunderstandings etc
Its another solution if possible for this lady to think about.

Both of his daughters have a full time job and “K ” has spent so much time over there and at hospitals with them she had to use her vacation time to do it. Sometimes he gives K $500 or more. But neither daughter would move in with them.

@Aster
So narrow down the options to one that is the only solution.
This poor women needs help and she needs it now!
Get an intervention going to seek counselling for her and possibly the only recourse is for her to get hospitalized and looked after by professionals as well as her husband.