Husband's best mate flirts with me and my husband doesn't really put a stop to it, is that weird?

It’s not clear from you run on story what your problem is. The details don’t match the question. It sounds like your husband’s friend is talkative and that you and he do most of the talking when the three of you are together. It also sounds like you object to your husband being quiet. Is there more to it than that? If you don’t want to be in the conversation, why not remove yourself from it rather than try to change your husband’s behavior with his friend? Or don’t hang out as a threesome.

rojo, stop it.

Your husband might simply enjoy the conversations best from a listening only point.
If nothing else, it gives him all the more insight to what you think, and feel. He might actually feel closer to you by just listening.
I think I would worry if he just walked out at these times.

I m really confused by the relationship. Are you jealous of the friend?

I don’t think I have enough information here. Has the friend actually come on to you? Has he made inappropriate suggestions or innuendo? Or is he just a chatty kinda guy? My wife and I have a couple that we spend time with. The guy is outgoing a boisterous. The conversation sometimes gets a little risqué but I, as the husband, don’t feel he is coming on to my wife. It’s just conversation. So if the friend isn’t actually making passes at you in front of your husband I don’t see a problem.

So why don’t you put a stop to it?
Its you that feels that he is flirting.
When two men get together with one women , usually they compete for her attentions.
But usually this is the singles that do that and since one is single he is competing for a conquest , much like he usually does as a bachelor.

Don’t but into it, nor keep it going as it may lead to something not wanted plus hurt your husband too
. The single man is doing what most men do..that is compete to win the women.
I would not trust that man, he is playing on the wrong turf.

Some men need a conquest and then they leave the women in the dust.
Its a game immature men play.

It is a very good thing for you and for him.

This means that he loves you and is confident in you that you love him and would never stray.

It also means that he is confident in himself and happy with your relationship, so that he can be giving and not jealous and crazy.

I’d say that these are very good indicators that you and he have a strong marriage. don’t worry about things when there is nothing to worry about

My thoughts exactly @elbanditoroso , your husband obviously feel secure in his relationship with you. Believe me, the last thing you want is a jealous husband.

Maybe he’s just like that. Maybe he sees you as just a friend, one he doesn’t have to put on airs with. But it wouldn’t hurt to breeze the notion past your husband in a nonchalant way.
I’ve been accused of being too flirty with women, and it’s just the way I am.

@seawulf575 Not Exactly, he never came on or anything, but I got a whatsap message from him saying hi, hello.I asked him how he got the number and he was like, just asked your hubby for it.Even tho, he hangs out with us, hed never had my personal number or asked for it until recently when he just somehow got it.

I don’t know. I guess as long as he is merely chatty, he might be annoying (if he talks too much or is around too much), but probably harmless. But if he makes some actual pass at you, let your husband know right away. You certainly don’t need that sort of drama in your life. If he still makes you uncomfortable, tell hubby as well. You and your husband are a team. Don’t keep him in the dark about how you are feeling or what you are seeing.

^^ very sound advice.

I would never send a message to a friend’s wife, meant for her exclusively, no matter how casual. (I just don’t want anyone getting any ideas about anything.)

My hubs and I were friends with a couple. I was close with her, and sometimes the two men would go fishing, etc. together. Still, her hubby was…weird to say the least. He sometimes would call me up apparently for no reason except to discuss his sex life with me. I learned to hang up quickly when he was on the line.

If this guy makes you uncomfortable, you need to tell your husband, and stay the heck away from the guy!