How do you find out what stage of grief that you are in?

Stages of grief is a very personal thing. The process for you might be nothing like the process for me. I’ve found that dealing with my grief day by day & NOT focusing on when it will be over helps me to get there faster. My husband died 11 years ago & I still have some unbearable days; yet, I’ve noticed that those days are coming less frequently. I NEVER forget that he’s no longer here; but, my pain is growing a little easier to deal with. I don’t think that you can rush your grieving pocess…just deal with it!!!

The “stages of grief” is not a specific timeline or strict blue print. It is a genralization of the stages most (but not all) people move through as they grieve something or someone.

The best way to understand your grief and what is going on in your life is to work with a therapist (and not a psychiatrist unless that psychiatrist does a lot of talk therapy).

If you keep “resetting”, your issues may not be grief, but something else.

There are no stages or timetable with grief, an extremely peronal & individual process.
Best to let it wash over you like the tide coming in & out, let natural reactions lead the way.
No right or wrong way.

Keeping in mind that the stages of grief is a broad framework that may differ among different people, the first stage is denial. It seems doubtful that you keep returning to the denial stage. Without knowing the details, I suspect that you are stuck between two successive stages.

What are you grieving?

You feel what you feel.