What do you want your divorce lawyer to be like?

Nonexistent if possible. Because they cost $$ that neither one of you will get in the end.
Even though it will require possibly unprecedented levels of cooperation, work out how to divide your assets equitably yourselves if you can.

Otherwise, fair. You may feel like cutting each other’s guts out right now, but down the road there is a lot of potential for rewarding friendship with someone you felt like marrying once.
However, if your spouse wants to take ALL from you and make you hurt, then your lawyer must be someone who can defend you from that kind of childish spiteful stuff.

Mine was good. She was thorough, took the time to understand me and to explain options, took the initiative to suggest options. She had a healthy questioning attitude, questioning my side of things to make sure I wasn’t making stuff up. We worked well together.

On the flip-side, after the divorce, my ex came back onto the scene, trying to stir trouble and get custody of the kids. And my divorce lawyer had moved on and was now the DA for a town east of us. I had to find another lawyer, I found another woman and she was probably one of the worst attorneys there was. She knew procedure, but had no clue about being an attorney. She could answer questions I had, but I had to ask them. For example, in a strategy in the case, she wouldn’t offer any suggestions unless I specifically asked about them and then she would tell me “yeah, we could do that.” It felt like I was the attorney, she was the mouthpiece.

Mine was a sweet older gentleman who treated me much like my Grandfather did at the time. Now days it would be difficult to find a Grandfather figure as most of them have retired!!!

In all honesty, I hope to NEVER need another divorce attorney!!! I asked for NOTHING from my first husband…I just wanted OUT!!! At that time you were required to have an attorney to file the let me outta here paperwork.

Sweet, feisty, single, beard lover.
Cheap. (the monetary one)

We had a collaborative lawyers’ divorce procedure and it was well worth the money I spent. My lawyer was a caring but sharp woman about my age. The settlement we each got was fair and sufficient.

Saul Goodman