What should I do if I like someone who is 7 years or more older than me?
I’m really socially awkward, I find it difficult to talk to people face to face, and more if I have a crush on a guy I “met??” a couple days ago. I m a 16 year old guy who likes guys. so… from what I suppose he is a guy between 20 to 25 years old, at least he looks like it. I met him while I was on my way to college, I was running late and he was going out with his dog. He was holding the entrance door for me, so I said thanks to him, he responded with a warm smile. I legit couldn’t get him out of my mind all day long and now I wish I had talked more with him that day. What should I do? Should I ask him out? Oh and, yeah he lives in the same building as me.
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No. You are underage for a person in their 20’s and he could get into a lot of trouble going out with you. For now, it’s safer to see people your own age.
Leave him alone. And if he has any sense he’ll give you a wide berth as well.
Exactly as stated above, no because you will leave yourself wide open to manipulation and control from an older person. Get some life experience with ones your age first and wait until you understand the implications of that involvement. Always ask why he chose a much younger person rather than his own age? Spells problems and your safety is a concern.
( Especially as in international news..( CDN) younger man was being manipulated into a relationship and in the end that older man killed him and many more..trial in Canada as we speak)..Not to scare you, but wake up to what is happening to gays that are scouted.
Well, are you in America? If not, what is the age of consent where you live? As long as you have reached that age, have at it. (Personally, I think 16 is old enough to consent, but it might not be legal.)
If you have not reached that age, be careful of your choices. You can do damage to yourself and any potential partner. It’s easy to obsess over someone you don’t know because everything you think you feel is based on your assumptions and might have no basis in reality. That guy could be a total ass.
You are 16 and in college?
That’s a big age difference at your age and one opened door and smile does not a relationship make. Stick with your crush if you need to fantasize but don’t pursue it further especially if he lives in the building..
Do nothing. You’re considered jail bait.
Aside from the legality and jail bait arguments which have merits, your experience level is totally different from a man in his 20s. Repeating myself but just want to add that.
Sorry for not mentioning it, but I live in Spain and from what I know, here the age of consent is 16 yo. “16
Individuals aged 15 or younger in Spain are not legally able to consent to sexual activity, and such activity may result in prosecution for statutory rape or the equivalent local law. Spain statutory rape law is violated when an individual has consensual sexual contact with a person under age 16.”
^^^ From what I’ve seen, it checks out.
I would wait for him to make the first move. His smile may have just simply been a smile, and you read “warm,” into it.
So, try to talk to him. Ask him for coffee. Just don’t assume anything. You might not like him if you get to know him. Also, do you know if this guy is inclined to date men? If not, be careful of that too. I don’t know about Spain, but in America some men will react violently if approached by a gay man. Good luck.
Enjoy the feeling. It probably won’t last, but it’s exciting while it does.
@Jeruba Good spot. I didn’t see that he was a guy. Even more reason to be careful.
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