Why is it the 3rd ,7th, and 11th year are the hardest on a marriage?

This Summer we are heading for our 30th year and been great, but those three years were the hardest to get through.
Been told by others those years were hard on them as well, is it a common thing with those three years?
My Nephew and his wife are calling it quits after the 3rd year.

None of that seems familiar to my experiences.

Never heard that before. But I’d put my money on the 6th, the 19th, the 25th, the 37th, the 41st…

I agree with 3rd and 7th. For me the new wore off by year 3, so the work started. By year 7 some of that work went awry. I also remember thinking that I cant force him to change, or listen, or clean up, etc…

Maybe it has to do with the age of the children. Like the terrible twos and being a teenager at 12.

Hows that force working for you @KNOWITALL ??

@SQUEEKY2 He just surprised me this weekend with a new ring, we’re doing alright. Its a learning process. Especially for a commitment-phobe like me.

Can’t appreciate the question
My ex wife made EVERY year hard.

Let me tell you, the 37th is a killer!

Because she knows that divorce is impossible in those years.

I feel like getting past year 4 is significant, and I have to say our hardest years were 20, 21, 22, 23, 24. Lol. We had a run there. Hardest years so far anyway. It was circumstances, and not handeling it as well as I wish we could have. We just had our 26th anniversary.

Too many variables to generalize. What age you get married, when you have kids, is everyone healthy, are careers going well, so many factors affect the marriage.

Prime numbers. So 13,17, 23, 29…..

With my ex, the 5th year he started acting up. I tried to reason with him for the next 5 years but he refused to listen. The 10th year it was over. Boy, he sure was surprised SMH.

With Rick…well, we were together and living together for 4 years before we got married. I was so stressed with the shop I barely had time to register the progress of our relationship. Since then it’s been OK.