Do I mean something to him?
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August 23rd, 2008
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he trying to stop cutting and doing drugs for me at least he claims. He calls 10 times a day asking what’s wrong and telling me how much I mean to him and to tell me he’s worried about me. He calls every night at 8:50 on the dot to say “good night and sweet dreams”. He brags about me and calls me his guardian angel. So am I really something to him or is it all lies?
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Sounds like he might be “obsessed” with you, and that’s really not a “good” thing, at all.
He needs a head-shrinker, desperately.
August 24, 2008, 2:26 AM EDT
yeah, sounds like (no offense) he’s just clinging to you because he desperately needs someone to lean on.
just my opinion. and it doesn’t sound like the healthiest relationship either.
In many cases, an “obsessed” male KILLS the object of his affection, because he wants to ensure that no other man will “have” her.
I’d suggest putting some mileage between you and him.
August 24, 2008, 2:32 AM EDT
thing is Is I used to be just like he is now but I changed I care for him greatly and I’m also the first skinny chick he’s ever dated
You might want to read up a little on codependence. This relationship could easily end up there.
Sounds like you are obsessed with him and he is obsessed with you…......typical teen “love” (=drama).
I care about him he is almost over the edge with stress of his brother leaving he lost his kids and he’s suicidal but I care for him enough to stay around when the worst comes to worst I made that promise and I’ve NEVER broken a promise I’ve made to a loved one and I don’t plan on it.
Hmm…
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Without even realizing that it is happening, I find myself focusing on others needs even at my own expense.
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When it is my turn to receive help from others I usually decline, as I am uneasy when others focus their attention on me.
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I have many times taken pride in the fact that I am a “helper” with others, and I can easily postpone or deny my own needs.
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I feel the best about myself when I am giving advice and/or handling a crisis situation.
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Many times I have waited for others to take care of me in return, only to discover that it is never my turn.
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Sometimes I am so focused on one person that I can only think about that person and how to help them.
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I take good care of my friends. Most people like me because of what I can do for them.
If you answered true to most of the above questions, you are very likely codependent. To be codependent is to be skilled in the art of taking care of other people rather than of yourself.
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yes boy and girl twins their names are isabelle and leon and I have pictures and I’ve seen then before
yes they’re a little less than a year old I love those kids more than my life
Wait, you’ve “seen” them and you love them more than your life?
Omg…. Hes trying to get in your pants….
I adore those kids and yes I was there whenthey were adopted by foster parents
what????? I told him from the start that he ain’t getting anything from me
You could tell him your a lesbian and he would still continue to try and get in your pants.
I think you’re going to do whatever your impulses tell you to do, no matter what anyone here says. I hope everything works out for you, and that you take good notes for the next time around.
Yes you mean something to him: his latest obsession and crutch to get over previous obsessions – sounds like you’re also clinging quite tightly to this to keep from going back to cutting and drugs…..as a result, you have a wonderfully dramatic, obsessive, co-dependent relationship! You can probably keep it up for a while, but eventually one or both of you will find new obsessions or learn and grow!
Fingers crossed for the latter!
i think you should go for therapy.
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