No. My dad had/has similar problems. We convinced him to give up driving for good about 2 years ago.
He didn’t want to, and was very stubborn about it. After one very harrowing incident, that I won’t go into here, with him demanding to drive, I put my foot down, and my mother and my brother backed me up.
He was angry, but we explained multiple times about how dangerous his driving had become, for the same reasons you have mentioned.
After he reluctantly agreed, I told him that I would drive him anywhere he needed to go.
You may have to get tough and have a very unpleasant conversation with him. If you feel like he will yell at you, or refuse to give up driving, have a friend, relative, or even his doctor be with you when you have this conversation.
Make sure that you are prepared with the “alternatives” for when your husband inevitably complains that he needs to go here and there.
If you don’t drive, find a reliable friend, relative, or neighbor, or a network of those people who will be willing to drive him places, on short notice.
You should also check into using ridesharing programs like Uber and Lyft, and check with his doctor, or the local senior center about free or low cost shuttles that pick up seniors for shopping trips and doctor appointments.
Be armed with all of the alternatives, first, before you talk to him, otherwise you’ll get an earful of why he “needs” to drive. Have the alternatives ready to go.
Also be prepared to take and hide the keys. If he’a feisty, give the keys to a trusted friend, relative or neighbor, so hubby doesn’t rifle through your house looking for the keys.
Contact his doctor, and the DMV, and his auto insurance company, and ask them what else needs to be done.
If you will be the one who will mostly be driving him, don’t allow yourself to become resentful. Know that he will want and need to be driven here and there, even if it is sometimes inconvenient.
My dad has now let me drive him around for 2 years. His own brother refused to give up driving when he should have, and he accidentally ran my aunt down in their driveway, when the car rolled backward, he couldn’t figure out where the brake was, and the passenger door hit her and she broke her foot, and had abrasions all over her hands, and arms, and head. Luckily she wasn’t killed.
My dad took that incident to heart, and never complained again about not getting to drive his own car. I take him everywhere he needs to go, or else I go in my own car and do the errand myself, while I’m out doing other stuff. I’m pretty efficient when it comes to planning several different errands, for different people, and doing them in a reasonable amount of time. Everybody’s happy. Stuff gets done.
I also take my folks for drives that are just that. Let’s drive by the ocean, let’s go look at the wildflowers, let’s go eat lunch. Not every drive has to be about errands and doctor appointments : )
Best of luck to you Aster.