A guy I didn't date dumped me?

Asked by maria_rbm (61

) March 20th, 2019

I thought I had made a good friend in college (I don’t have many there), but I quickly changed my mind. He was clearly interested in me, and so I decided to back off a little bit. Instead of sitting next to him in class, I sited with other two guys. The problem is, out of nowhere, he came to me telling that we were not a match and we couldn’t date (I had left pretty clear that I didn’t want a boyfriend – I said these exact words to him). It’s been two days since that happen and he keeps coming to me like nothing happened. What is bothering is that I never showed interest in him and he had the nerve to ’‘dump’’ me?! How would you react if one of your friends did this to you out of nowhere?
PS: In one of our last conversations before this happened, he kept asking me if I wanted I boyfriend, if I was in love and telling that he was very likely in love with someone (me). I told him in that conversation that I didn’t want a boyfriend and quickly change the topic. He was making me uncomfortable.

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Why are you concerned? If you weren’t in a relationship with him, why are worried about being dumped? How could you be dumped if you weren’t together?

Laugh at him. He is an idiot. You are wasting far more time on this than he is worth.

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He is dumping the friendship that you two had because he wanted more than that.
Is he trying to get you to chase him, now?
If so he is playing games with your emotions,leave him and be careful that he is NOT telling others that HE HAD a relationship with you other than acquaintance.
Go with others and not around him for awhile.

Inspired_2write (14486

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Sounds like he is trying to protect his ego.
He can not stand the fact that someone else dumped him, so he retroactively pretends that he is the one that dumped you.

ragingloli (52231

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Yes, @elbanditoroso is correct, just move on, who cares.

He sounds like a weirdo not living in reality, just stay away from him and watch your back around him.

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I can see why you’re annoyed but he was probably just trying to save face and being very immature about it. It’s called sour grapes after the old Aesop’s fable. Don’t worry about it much.

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