How do I deal with someone who is obsessed with me?

What would have worked for me is if I had help finding someone else. You can sign your friend up on a dating site and help write the “about me” section. You can even pay the first months membership. You can tell your friend that one day he/she will find someone more special than you and every thing will work out.

I’d ghost him probably. You already told him you werent interested so you dont OWE him a friendship or constant attendance.

Two years as friends is a long time and a godsend for him. Perhaps go as a group as friends and ask him if he’d accept that?
I would feel lead on if a friend did that to me and did not explain earlier.
It makes this person feel worse and rejected as he probably has not done anything wrong except possibly had expectations..one can hardly blame him?
Go as mixed group together and he will find another hopefully.

You need to set this person straight (no pun intended). You joined the group, enjoyed the friendship, but you feel like you didn’t have anything more with him than that. Let him know that he has come on a little too strong, and that you are going to take a step back. Then walk away.

You owe him nothing. If you know his family, let them know what has been going on, so that they can take over.

You did nothing wrong. As long as you gently let this person know how things really are, you are not obligated in any way.

Whatever you do, don’t ghost him. And do it face to face, but tell him things need to end because you have to find your own relationship.

I think @RDG’s answer seems quite insightful.

@RedDeerGuy1

I appreciate your answer, but honestly, I think that would makes things worse.

@rockfan, I agree that that approach would make things worse, because it would “appear” to this fellow that you are being helpful, and way more involved, than you are. He would be more enamored with you. Plus, it’s not your obligation to find this fellow a mate.

You do need to be honest with him, but tell him gently, then walk away.

I think that giving a good answer to this question would depend on understanding autistic behavior and mindset, and I don’t, so I have no kind of authority to back my opinion.

But I do think that the best answer is going to be not prolonging it. You’ve already tried to break it off. Now do it, clean and clear.

Do not sign him up for anything. That puts you way, way into his business, and it’s deceptive besides. I’m sure that advice was well meant, but it’s a terrible idea. Make your break and stick to it. The sooner he can start to get over it, the better.