An acquaintance of mine, her mother loved it. She had company during the day, activities, the staff was very nice. She still had all her mental capacity basically, but physically she needed help.
A friend of mine here where I live, her mom is very happy too where she is living. Both she and her husband were living there, but he past away a few months ago.
Both of the people above had a child that lived nearby and were visited often by family.
My grandmother never wanted to go to assisted living, but towards the end, my sister felt that she would have been better there. She stayed in her home until she died though, with help coming to the house.
Some assisted living is awful. Patients being neglected is probably some of the worst of it. Neglect can lead to serious patient harm.
They say you should shop for the assisted living facility you would be ok living in, so if your children ever need to put you in one, at least you chose it when you had all your faculties, and your children will know the place was your choice.
Where I live they have facilities you can live in while you are still totally compos mentis and able to care for yourself, but they supply a meal a day (some places it’s 2 meals) and transportation. Some places you rent a small apartment, some you buy it. Then, as you age, if you start to need help, then you become part of their assisted group within the same complex. My paternal grandfather was in a place like that also the last few years of his life. I always saw my grandpa as very lonely, but he was slightly hard of hearing, and had had a very very difficult life. He also had lost his wife, my grandma, quite young, he was in his early 50’s when she died.
I have no children. I hope to God I have good care when I am older. It’s a little terrifying.