What would your thoughts be if you invited someone to lunch, they accepted,but when they came the next day, they weren't hungry because they had just eaten?

I don’t have kids but to me it feels a bit rude. On the other hand she still came, why is that?

Unfortunately, kids eating schedules are not like adults. They need to eat when they are hungry, and that doesn’t always correspond to when adults are serving meals.

A hungry child is often prone to throwing fits. The mother probably just had to give her kid something so he wouldn’t cause a ruckus. She probably didn’t mean to cause any problems, but I can see how you would be left scratching your head.

I found out that I can’t schedule any kind of lunch or dinner activities with my friend who has 3 kids, for this reason. You never know what is going to transpire when you get to a restaurant, or in between the time you make the plan, to the time you arrive at the restaurant.

Just chalk this one up to fussy kids.

Poor planning

It wasn’t poor planning on my part @josie. I told her what day, what time, and what I would be serving.

@Kardamom When a child is hungry it’s not going to kill them to wait an hour or so to eat. I made my kids wait until dinner was ready, every day, to eat. When I was a kid we had to wait until dinner was ready to eat. Thanksgiving day was agony, LOL! But man was it good when we got to it!

@nerdgirl578, well she wanted me to watch the toddler while she ran some errands, which was perfectly fine with me.

@Dutchess_III Ok, that seems like she’s taking advantage of you. I (naively) thought maybe she simply wanted to hang out with you, even if they already ate.

Could it be they are finicky eaters? When I was little, my mom had to make excuses for me often.
I can recall a couple of sleepovers that I ate nothing until the next day when I got home. I tried to have breakfast at one, but the milk they put on my cereal was fresh from the teat. I also lived on a farm, but we had no dairy cattle. It was still warm, and I just couldn’t.

@Dutchess_III
Poor planning on their part

The kid can be excused. There is no excuse for its mother. The mother was informed on the menu as well as the fact that YOU were cooking. Her behavior was insensitive to the point of insult. It amounts to an open rejection of your cooking and flagrant contempt for your exertions. It’s the sort of oafish behavior you might expect from a drunken frat boy. Was she raised in a barnyard?

@Patty_Melt Well, as an adult I would expect her to tell me if she didn’t like spaghetti, but I happen to know she does. The kid, if he didn’t want to eat, I wouldn’t care, but if he had been hungry he would have eaten.

I was a little taken aback at the thoughtlessness @stanleybmanly. Thank goodness not a whole boat ton of effort went into the meal.

She didn’t take advantage of me @nerdgirl578. I asked if I could babysit.

I can understand your frustration and hurt feelings.
Sometimes people are just plain dense.

It was frustrating, but it didn’t hurt my feelings. It just made me think, “Seriously? WTH?!”

I suffer hypoglycemia. I have times when I MUST eat. Maybe she has an issue. Maybe not.

She doesn’t have any issues.

She has 1 big one. And I’m surprised you had the self control to resist apprising her of it.

I meant physical medical issues that involve food. She doesn’t have any.

I feel like we don’t always know what people’s medical issues are, or their children’s medical issues are, and can’t assume they have none. Not everyone wants to share their medical stuff with others. I know I don’t. I’m not telling people about diseases I’ve had or stuff like that. I have a friend who, when offered certain foods, will talk about her medical issues and why she can’t eat that. I never do that. People don’t want to hear it and I am fine not talking about it.

I know this person well enough to make that claim. When I told her what we were having, she actually said they’d had that for dinner that night (my lunch was for the next day.) I just laughed and said we’d call it left overs. I said I’d make garlic bread too, because the child LOVES garlic bread.