Progressive dog trainers see resource guarding as a very serious matter, and it’s important to note that the binary thinking of whether a dog is food aggressive or not can create a false sense of security. The stories of children mauled by the family dog almost always claim the dog attacked “out of the blue”, and they usually highlight a stunning lack of supervision or attention. That’s a sad effect of the “Lassie syndrome”, which leads us to believe that good dogs should allow children to pull on their ears, climb on their back, and take food right out of their mouths. If the dog is “child-proof”, parents feel safe letting dogs and kids interact without direct supervision.
In my opinion, any dog who’s eating or chewing on a bone should be seen as a source of danger. Even after ten years of letting kids grab his bone, some dogs finally snap. Stress accumulates in dogs, just as it does in people. Maybe a hand reaching into my puppy’s food bowl doesn’t bother him at home, but it makes him growl when it’s paired with extreme hunger, or lack of sleep, or the pain of arthritis, or a loud noise in the background.
It makes sense to teach both the dog and any children involved. That way, if one safety net fails you still have another. For example, I would teach kids that only adults can take anything out of the dog’s mouth or reach into his bowl. I would also teach the dog that it is awesome news when a hand gets close to his dinner, because that hand always offers a “dessert” of chicken, cheese, or something equally delicious.
I did this with my young dog, but hadn’t heard about it when I raised my older one. While both allowed people to reach into their bowls, the difference was stark: My old girl looked very disappointed and anxiously waited until she could resume eating. Wilson, my younger one, looks on with a totally zen expression. He wags his tail and pants happily, no matter how long it takes until he can dive in again.
For anyone struggling to explain dog rules to children, here’s a song about it.