@KNOWITALL Yes, because the dead guy in that case didn’t get attacked at all, because we engaged the venting person, who then relented.
American society, it seems to me, has become notably worse in its nastiness and the level of fear, desperation, xenophobia, despair, and financial plight, over the recent years and decades since the last times people were suicidal (the Depression in the 1930’s). I’m not all that surprised that some men have acted out in violence, especially as mass violence has become more and more an idea of something that is done in our culture.
For example, our society has a lot of really poor parenting and “tough love” messages, and attempts to shovel responsibility and obligations onto people to be “successful” by learning from often-terrible schools, combined with messages that they probably need to go to college to get a degree just to be able to have a chance at getting a job, which will probably put them in debt and require them to work at the same time (or if not, they’re told they’re so lucky) and then even if they get a job, they may not be able to afford their expenses (and if they don’t, they’re told it’s their own fault and they should be better or smarter or earn more), and the ideal and standard of success is compared to TV/movie fantasies where “normal”-people characters show new expensive cars/houses/clothes/gadgets and are beautiful and healthy and professionally groomed and made-up – i.e. near-impossible standards, and shame and blame if you don’t achieve those.
And you’re supposed to be grateful and obedient and give most of your time and energy to your employers, even if the job you managed to get is awful. And if you’re a man, you’re not supposed to show weakness or upset, and you’re also not supposed to be angry or violent.
Oh, and I left out all the social stresses.
And I didn’t even mention the many political and socio-political and/or religious and/or racial issues, which seem to very commonly be what many of the attacks have featured.
Anyway, I’m not surprised many people build up crazy levels of stress and crack, and that men in particular have suppressed anger and that it sometimes explodes in violent suicidal attacks, especially when that’s become an idea of one of the options people have.
If someone feels alone, abandoned, trapped, shamed, powerless, emasculated, threatened, invalidated, not heard, etc., I can see how that can lead to suicidal berserk attacks.
I think it’s similar to what happens when some people run from the cops, but instead of the “flight” response it’s the “fight” response, and much more severe and suicidal.