Does this kind of public shaming on social media really help?

Wouldn’t think so. Some folks seem to think airing their dirty laundry on FB is a solution to something.

My cousin did something similar. She posted about her father dying in his own vomit and blamed her sister for it. They argued back and forth for probably a hundred posts. I read a few in absolute horror before unfollowing. I heard one of them actually posted a picture of their dead father. It does no one any good to post this type of personal grievances on a public forum. It made me dislike both cousins and I have no dealings with them any longer.
It’s a very uncomfortable situation for anyone reading your dirty laundry.
I use Facebook to keep up with friends and family and to see cute puppy pictures. Keep your fights private.

That poor guy. Never mind alcoholism being an illness – what happened to protecting your partner? If my husband did this to me, my trust for him would be completely gone.

Even outside of public forums, I think shaming always does a lot of damage and rarely even a little bit of good. It makes people feel small, and insecure people are more likely to snap.

That’s how I felt, @longgone. Especially since she should have been old enough to know better, not having grown up with social media.

Age doesn’t equate wisdom, or intelligence.

I’ve seen this happen once, from someone close to me.
One of the partners handed out digs at the other one on Facebook, but did it without naming the other one.
They were (not so) subtle references, through memes and quotes/mottos, to the not very attentive partner involving caring and raising (for) the baby (in the poster’s opinion).
I can simply not understand what brings someone to do such things.

No. Everyone who read that thread learned more about that woman.
@longgone makes a good point.

The whole “public shaming” thing is anathema to me, I can’t imagine that it convinces people to behave better/stop drinking/quit smoking/get thin. But there are people who think it works, has it ever worked for anyone here, I wonder.

I don’t recommend it, but I’ve always said if a spouse wants to tell the world she was cheated on I support her, but no one else should be outing the situation publicly. Most notably I say this about politicians.

As far as alcoholism and abuse, it’s a little different, and I think should be dealt with privately.

I don’t think much good comes from outing any marital situations publicly. You’re going to get comments you don’t want, it’s not something you can take back once done, it ruins any trust. I’d say don’t do it, but I can understand wanting to do it in some situation. Why should some cheating husband get away with everyone thinking “he’s so great, so funny, so nice” when he’s a liar, cheater, risk my life not using condoms cheating asshole. If the person scorn is ready to leave public shaming might be the only revenge, especially if they aren’t married. If he/she wants revenge.

@canidmajor – I wonder.
A well thought out,factual argument will always go further than an argument based on vitriolic statements.Every time.
Posting that stuff online is idiotic.

No, it doesn’t help. In the case of suspected alcoholism, the cause of the behavior is almost always early life trauma. The person is traumatized, and such public shaming would only exacerbate the problem leading to more drinking and worse.

People have seem to lost their filters.

It seems over the top and cruel to make public what should be private.

Shame destroys- it is like killing a mosquito with an atomic bomb.

Fortunately I don’t see too much of that with my friends. I am in a local commuters’ group and people will post car plates and descriptions and talk about someone going slow in the left lane or stuff like that. I’m also in a large closed group of thousands of mature women who post about all kinds of issues, physical, emotional, family, etiquette, etc. They will discuss their husbands but it’s not quite the same as on their own timeline, unless their friends are in the group.

To me, posting bitch posts about a spouse or boyfriend would be childish and no good would come of it.

Hey @Dog So great to see you here!

Let me alone FaceBook, I wouldn’t bitch too much even here about family members or tell lengthy personal anecdotes. I am more circumspect online than I may have been in the past.