Is it possible to reach a loved one who's an alcoholic?

You don’t have to stop loving her or give up on her, but you may have to give up on the notion you can reach/ change her.

Until my mom stopped drinking at age 55, I had to love her from a distance, just too much damage, too much bail, too many midnight calls, so much stress and heartache.

Best of luck.

Yes. But it is not easy and not guaranteed.

The best thing I can suggest for you and especially the children is Al-Anon. They can help you deal with having an active alcoholic in your life.

It is possible for you, with help, to get to the point where the alcoholic gets into recovery or loses access to family. That is not easy, and is not guaranteed to work. But it can help the alcoholic bottom out on their behavior.

My best wishes to you, and a big hug for the kids.

I agree with @zenvelo.

My answer to you is the same as what I just finished writing on this thread. https://www.fluther.com/216968/does-an-alcoholic-still-act-irrational-even-when-they-arent-drinking/

I wish for healing and peace in your family.

It is possible, but very difficult. @zenvelo suggested Al-Anon and that would be a good start. My family had to deal with drug addiction. My wife and I attended Nar-Anon meetings for a time. It was nice to see so many people dealing with what we were going through…it didn’t make us feel so alone. It also gave us some insights into what people have tried to do to deal with the addiction of a loved one. It was sad, though, that all the stories were basically the same…how the addiction started, how the family dealt with it, how the addiction progressed, and finally how they finally hit there end point. The only part that changed was the end of the story…whether the addict lived or died.
Some of how to reach that loved one depends on the physical arrangement…if they live under your roof or not. And sometimes, reaching them means forcing them to hit rock bottom before they will change.