Anyone feel like life is just passing you by?

There is always hope and a path forward.

Can you take a week with friends to gain perspective?

First of all, life is in fact passing all of us by. It was here before us, it continues after us.

But that is not what you mean. The issue is not that it is passing you by. The issue is your self admitted cowardice. It makes you feel useless and ineffective which in turn makes your time in this world seem like a waste. Assuming the problem is not reconcilable (I will infer that you believe that it is not) then there is no sense engaging in foolish self-sacrifice.

It is the sense of futility that gives you the impression that life is passing you by. Soldiers will fight desperately and bravely. But if their position is clearly untenable, it is best to move to different ground.

I don’t know what you think you deserve, but certainly we are all entitled to try to achieve happiness.

So, in my opinion, you should do that.

@Harper1234: Can you go to therapy to work on your thoughts and feelings?

Imagine the best outcome for you, then imagine what steps are required to get that in your life.

Then get away from the problems even for just an afternoon by yourself in a peaceful environment..like Nature or whatever area that is good for you.
Ask yourself how this problem started, then how you can change it to get what you really need and let go of that which you don’t need.
Finally , talk with a counselor,or lawyer or Priest, etc whomever you feel comfortable with to help you work your way out of this predicament in the short term and if necessary the long term.

Start slowly. You need some support. See a therapist just for yourself not for marriage counseling. It is never too late to start over. You do deserve better.