Kinda wanna disappear from everybody, is that a good idea or should i handle my stress a different way?

Exercise.
That will relieve some of your stress and you will start to feel better.
Good luck.

Ditto exercise
If you succumb to the other, you will reinforce the notion that isolation is a way to meet life’s challenges. This is unhealthy and leads nowhere. Plus it starts a cycle that is tough to break.
Exercise!

@kaylasdesire The only way out is through. Life gets better with time and effort. Take care of your body and reach out to the friends and family that are helpful to you. Let those still in your life know that you are grateful for having them on your life.
I like to tell the grocery store clerks that their prices are great and that I am greatful for the selection of wonderful items, shipped from all around the world, that only a king could have 200 years ago.

Well, you can’t actually disappear.

But take all the time you need if you need time to be alone. Just make a concerted effort to press yourself to take the above advice, and get out some and exercise and experience some new things when the time is right for you. It does take some effort, but take some time to yourself first if you need to.

Give yourself 5 days to cry, and be by yourself. Then stop, and give yourself 10 minutes a day to feel shitty and sad, but start being busy, and useful, and making yourself healthy.

If you allow yourself to be alone, and wallow in your sadness for more than a week, you will indeed sink into deeper despair.

If you feel like you can’t climb out of the sadness hole, consider getting some short term therapy to help you to cope.

Being busy, and useful to other people, who need some help, doesn’t give you a lot of time to wallow in sadness. Just make sure you are being helpful to the folks who appreciate it, not just anybody.

Find the elderly neighbors on your street and make them some brownies, or cookies, or offer to do an errand for them while you are at the store.

Make some homemade cards for the folks at your local nursing home.

Volunteer to socialize puppies or kittens at your local shelter.

Offer to mow someone’s lawn, or shovel snow off of their walkway.

Being busy, and useful helps other people, but it also helps you. Please check back with us and let us know how you are doing.

We humans are strange like that, programmed to hit the foetal position in times of high stress.
It’s an instinctive reaction making us feel protected as we were in the womb, but it solves nothing.

That is metaphorically what you are doing here & I would suggest you allow yourself a short time of reflection before getting back on the ball, reinvigorate yourself.

Good luck!

First off, Welcome to Fluther. You are surrounded by some of the nicest and strangest people online here. As to your current situation, I will echo the caution some of the others have given. Sometimes we need to give ourselves “me” time to think things through or to recharge our batteries. That is fine. However, too much of this becomes a spiral that doesn’t really help. Life gives us ups and downs. It happens from when we are born until we die. Sometimes the downs seem enormously deep. But we humans have the capacity to deal with a lot of crap. I’m sorry for the loss of your friend and the grief it has caused you. We all die eventually…no one gets out of life alive. But try to remember the person that was and the good times you had with them. Celebrate their life.
As for the break-up, I can tell you they weren’t right for you or you screwed up badly. I don’t know anything about them nor the circumstances of the break-up. But they weren’t happy with the relationship either because they were looking for something you couldn’t bring or because of something like infidelity on your part. If it was the latter, you weren’t happy with the relationship either. Any way you slice it, this relationship had issues. Better to nip it now rather than try to force it. That just brings prolonged unhappiness and ends even worse later. I would highly suggest you give yourself a set time to deal with the negatives life hit you (make it a relatively short time) and then go out and do something just for you. Go parasailing or skiing or just get a friend and go out for an evening to do something you always wanted to do. Your mind will work through the grief and then life will hand you some “ups” and you will go on.

^GA wulf.

My understanding is wherever you go, there you are. Problems are often internal and will travel with you, no matter where you go. Geography, has little to do with internal issues.

I recommend meditation, or introspection.

Ask yourself, what’s really going to change, if I change my location? The answer is often nothing.

There are exceptions, like say you live in a bad neighborhood. But. By far and wide, your problems are in your head . That’s actually quite normal. Find a mirror, and be frank with your self. Look into your own eyes, and ask some questions about what makes you so unhappy wherever you are. Be honest, to at least yourself. You may be able to change some of your problems.

Good luck.

Peace n love.