What happens when one gets married?

Do not get married before age 30.

It does change things for many people. Its permanent and legally binding. If you marry an ahole or later they end up being horrible, you are legally obligated to paythe debt or lose your credit. Bills racked up are now your bills. If a health issue arises, one has to support the other.

Think long and hard. Problems now or minor arguments can become much bigger down the road. Date long enough that the best foot forward is gone, and you see the real character of your mate before you tie yourself to them.

I am afraid to even touch questions on marriage anymore not knowing what kind of marriage are we talking about? In traditional marriages, I would see it as near impossible for “things” not to change. You are combining your life, heart and soul with another person who is combining their life, heart and soul with yours. Ideally there will be great things in common that make things being different less noticeable where your differences will have a different role to play. Again ideally, these differences will compliment each person, they will enhance your experience of life, these differences will also create challenges as it is almost as important to keep these difference alive as they are very representative of the individuals you are before you committed your lives to each other, these differences are what were part of the attraction package that brought you together. DO NOT get married thinking you will be able to change a difference you may not like. You have to love them warts and all as they should with you. Yes marriage will change your life for the better in many amazing ways and it will bring with it changes that challenge your patience.

Almost everyone marries with some sort of expectation, spoken or unspoken.

It feels the same—except knowing in the back of your head that she now owns half of your stuff.

When a man gets married, no matter what his age, he becomes “Old Man Jones.” (Or whatever his name is.) But if a man never gets married, he’ll always be “just one of the boys.”

One thing doesn’t change: you know all those things that are promised “once we get married”? They don’t happen after marriage either.

See @KNOWITALL‘s answer.

A man isn’t complete until he’s married. Then, he’s finished!

50% of the time, you get divorced.

It depends on the people who are getting married. Marriage is work and you get out of it what you put in to it. If you love your partner, then you want them to succeed and blossom into the best person they can be. In the best cases, it is a true partnership, a best friend, someone you still find attractive years later.

A happy wife, a happy life.
For the wife.

It’s a trap. Outside of children there is no good reason for a man to get married in 2019.

The first year of marriage is a bit challenging.
I had 2 friends who lived together for 2 years, then married. They were divorced within 10 months.
You are adapting together, and changing your habits and lifestyle. You are also facing the expectations your spouse has in marriage.

We dated several years before getting married. Didn’t change much afterwards. Having kids changed our relationship more than the getting married part.

Depends on the people, and often they only find out what they and their partners are like in a marriage after they are actually in a marriage.

Couples are always putting their best out there even if they are living together. Somehow that piece of paper has a lot of power and things that were promised never happen and the catering to each other slows down until it finally doesn’t exist(after 32 yrs). And as you grow older together both of you will change because specific circumstances in each others life will be different. It is hard for some to share what they have 50/50 when maybe they worked harder than the other S/O but that doesn’t matter. And just because you make the most $ doesn’t mean you get to make the most decisions….You better understand what sharing means 100%. It takes work..I am not kidding you and most times 1 partner puts in more work than the other so that things will “work.”

Of course things change, especially after you have kids (if you have kids.)

After my now ex and I got married his whole attitude changed. He acted like I was his property now. He thought he should be able to snap his fingers and I had to submit to sex whether I wanted to or not. Didn’t even bother with flirting or foreplay any more.
Well, that was short lived! I am not a dog that you can just snap your fingers at.

I had a uncle who was lost when his love of his life passed on many years later.
He wrote me a letter on how he felt and I was surprised as I only met him once when I was only at the age of 16 yrs old.

In the letter he wrote that she was the only one for him and they were friends,lovers,partners for life.

They talked about things and got on well, so compatibility with temper type,interests,
views on life, views on marriage, respect for each other,sharing and working as a team .

They were both soft spoken people who never had to raise there voices as they truly cared about each others feelings.

I have met lots of couples whom married high school sweethearts and are still happily married.
Can’t say that for all though.

“Know thyself” then look for someone with similar characteristics.

Welcome to Fluther! Glad you could bring us a question! The impact of marriage on you really depends on you. Yes, your spouse plays a role, but let’s think about that. If you co-habitate with a guy (or girl), they can just as easily turn into an asshole as if you were married. They can tell you things and lie. Or they can be really caring and just the perfect person in your life.
Marriage these days is not as permanent as it was once viewed. Most people these days enter into a marriage figuring if they don’t like it they can just get out of it. See @KNOWITALL‘s answer for some of the joys of that. Once married, the legal status of a lot of things change such as personal possessions, money, kids, etc.
I was married once and didn’t realize my wife was hiding deep psychological issues that came out later. That was bad. We ended up getting divorced and it was painful throughout. But I did get remarried. I found a woman that matched me better than anyone ever had. I got excited to see her and looked forward to the next time we could be together, even for a little while. I wanted this woman in my life all the time. She apparently felt the same because we have been married for 18 years now.
One trap I think many people fall into is that they don’t talk up front about what they expect from a marriage. It isn’t a 50–50 arrangement. It has to be 100–100. You are marrying someone that you need to put before all others, including your mom, your brothers or sisters, your friends, etc. That doesn’t mean these people have to be out of your life, but you and your spouse need to be as one. If he/she does something that your mom doesn’t like, you need to tell your mom thanks for the feedback, but it is your spouse. You can deal with whatever your spouse did with them if you feel it was wrong. But if you are both giving 100%, they will already have talked to you about whatever it is…or should.
Yes, there will be friction at times…that’s life. But being married is about working through those things, not pouting about them or running from them.

Sooner or later their life is over. The thrill is gone and she tells you it’s over. 20 years of your life are pissed away.