Is 'Rational love' a real thing? Or is love irrational by definition ?

Would it be rational for someone to tell their lover that their ass looks fat in their jeans all in the name of honesty?
Not if they want to get laid anytime soon…. Lol!

@lucillelucillelucille If its the truth, why lie? Its not right.

Love is rational and can be controlled. But people are often so desperate for it that they cannot control their feelings or thoughts.

At some point, we see reality and love becomes a choice.

@dopeguru -I call that an opinion as others might say their butt looks great in those jeans.
There are people out there that say that they always are “truthful”, when all it really is, is an excuse to be an asshole to someone.They are a dime a dozen and easy to pick out.
I think when it comes to things that are so inconsequential, such as someone’s choice in clothing and choosing to say something mean speaks to the lack of manners and intelligence of the one offering up the “truth”.
One doesn’t have to like their jeans or the fit,but there is a way to express an opinion without
being base.
To be purposely mean in the name of truth isn’t what is “right”.

That’s true. You can say it nicely, suggest something else (e.g. bigger sized clothing will make you look smaller, if that is what is desired), or, let someone live in their own reality if that’s the way they want to look or are pleased with their appearance.

The question, I think, is about all the “putting on our best selves” and even exaggerating a little, when all we really have to do is be our best selves.

There also comes a time when you and your lover realize how ordinary each other really is, maybe even a little of a drag or burden. We make a choice to stay with them and/or they choose to stay with us anyway.

Some people remain attractive and passionately in love for life. Others struggle but struggle together and put up with each other’s many faults. But one thing’s for certain: that young ‘love at first sight’ stuff, desirable as it may be, and may even last a few years,is only an illusion, a new discovery. But unfortunately it will pass. and real love is all that remains.

That’s Rational Love.

Love is a fickle thing, and the term could apply to many numbers of actual feelings that some may describe as “love.” So I don’t think it could be described as rational, or irrational.

I see nothing wrong with an occasional harmless white lie if it strengthens the relationship. We are not purely rational beings. Words can be hurtful even when completely true. Why create pain unnecessarily?

Honesty is always the best policy, but some things are better left unsaid. It goes without saying!

Love is altered brain chemistry, thus always irrational.