Do your parents still influence your life?

Well, they’re both dead.

But even when they were here they weren’t much help. No encouragement, no direction. The only thing my dad ever did was tell me I was a female so I didn’t need to go to college. I just needed to find a man to take care of me. He and Mom had just filed for divorce, too.
I took his advice and 12 years later wound up divorced and so broke that the kids and I almost became homeless.

I had good parents and miss talking to them very much.
My dad had excellent advice on business matters and knew how to take care of business.
My mom could read people very well and her advice on people was excellent.

My parents are both dead. There were many things they got wrong in their raising of me but I also got a lot of positive values and enjoyment of life from them. I think they would be proud of how I turned out. In fact, in the last six months of his life when my Dad was in a nursing home, he said to me twice, “You do every thing so well” which was a wonderful parting gift.

My mum, yes, we talk every day either in person or on the phone…she’s my hero!
My dad, not seen him for years & years & don’t know where he lives.

So, @ucme, is this your documentary?

Sounds like your mother is precious. How fortunate you are!

@janbb a sweet sad.

@Patty_Melt I think your link may be the wrong one :D
I don’t think luck plays a part in it at all, just mutual love & respect.

I stopped allowing that at about age 14.

@ucme
https://youtu.be/Zwd9NYhF3D0

The link didn’t work. Try this one.

Not quite, beats Norma Bates though.

Both are dead, so no, not really.

My mom is always “in my head” when it comes to safety things. It’s more in jest that I say things like, I can’t swim alone, because my mother wouldn’t approve then of a serious nature, but she is the one who makes me second guess things that could be risky.

My dad makes me second guess myself and it’s horrible and paralyzing. I really shouldn’t tell him anything, but I still sometimes do.

Mine are both dead, but up until my mom died in 2011, I still asked her advice on financial decisions.

Yep. I am still close with my parents, visit them often, and have no problem asking them for help and advice. :)

Very, very little. Dad passed away in 2006, Mom in 2018.

My mother died about three years ago but she influenced me in so many positive ways. She pushed me to get an education and she was happy when I got the job with the union. I think of her all the time, and I know that she loved my daughter so much. My daughter was 9 when my mother died. I know my mother was like a second mother to my daughter, as my grandmother was like a second mother to me.

My mother wanted me to become a teacher, because of the benefits. I have a job as a public employee, which also has great benefits, but not the time off that teachers get, and teachers in my county make more money than I make, but they also have to have a Master’s Degree, which I don’t have.

My mother was fairly laid back and I am, too. Sometimes I’m a little too laid back.

One thing my mother used to do which was very annoying to me at the time was she would tell me what I “should do.” “You should______.” “You should________.” It annoyed the shit out of me.

My real father, no influence, nothing.

My stepfather gives me financial advice. We don’t always have the best relationship, but he is very helpful.

Mine both mess with my head a lot so advice, no.

Rick was feeling a little melancholy last night. His dad died at 96 this year and now he has no parents or grandparents (died in the 70s) left to spend the holidays with. Sad.