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Are you still a virgin if you only do foreplay and not intercourse? (NSFW)

Asked by RedDeerGuy1 (24945points) November 30th, 2019

In other words a failed attempt at sex? Where one loses an erection and no sex happens?

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zenvelo's avatar

Yes, one would still be a virgin in that scenario.

GracieT's avatar

Technically, yes, but not really mentally.

Cupcake's avatar

Virginity is a social construct and does not actually exist.

If you have not had intercourse, then you have not had intercourse. Depending on your level of sexual activity, you may or may not have been at risk for a sexually transmitted infection, if you did not use protection.

If you have not had sexual activity, then you have not had sexual activity.

MrGrimm888's avatar

This depends on the individual’s definition of “virginity.”

kritiper's avatar

Specifically, yes.

Elian's avatar

So you play soccer but never scored? Are you a soccer player? Forget virginity, it was mainly intended for women to make sure nobody was there before you. You might or might not be a virgin but your experience in foreplay is priceless. There is no good sex without good foreplay. One day you will be a heck of lover!

Elian's avatar

Practically, yes. Like you are not a smoker if you play with cigarettes and do not light up…

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komencents's avatar

Virginity is in 2 parts.
Falsifyable virginity is a solid physical description of a female who’s body has not changed to the point of no return after an act of vaginal penetration.

Conceptual virginity is an idea of chronological measure of the physical world where at least one male has sexual contact with at least one female (even if it’s just skin contact or looking)

Depending on what’s done for the first time. “breaking your virginity” when talking about kissing means you kissed someone for the first time ever

But for the first construct, it only applies to females who do go through unfixable (if you discount surgery) change after intercourse.

Cupcake's avatar

@komencents There is no biological “point of no return after an act of vaginal penetration.” It does not exist.

komencents's avatar

@cupcake So explain the hymen and why a virgin bleeds but never again after

Cupcake's avatar

Not all virgins bleed. Some women bleed because they are not lubricated enough or because their cervix is bruised, which has nothing to do with a hymen.

The hymen is a stretchable excess of skin at the vaginal entrance that exists to different extents and in different shapes in different women. Some hymens “break”, others do not. Some “break” while doing gymnastics, riding a horse, or doing other physical activities. Some never do, even with years of vigorous sexual activity. Some women have nothing to “break”.

The tissue that forms the hymen could rip once, causing blood to appear. It could also rip again, under the right circumstances. Or it could not rip at all.

This is different from what I wrote first. Sexual arousal is a process that prepares the vagina for sexual activity. Without adequate arousal, the vagina is dry and prone to tears.

Women also bleed because of their menstrual cycle and cervix.

None of these things are unique to “virginity”.

Have you received any education about sexuality and female anatomy?

Rebecca_SJ's avatar

That’s called an “everything but” virgin. I was one for a little while.

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