How do you manage your anger?

I do this
Actually,I have good self control, dammit

I always manage my anger. I slow down, breathe, ask questions to understand more.

The biggest help is to not take ANYTHING personally.

I eat ice cream.

My anger is generally at myself or inanimate things that aren’t working or systems, like customer service, that are convoluted. I rarely anymore take it out on anyone else. I might curse on my own or smack a wall but for the most part, I have learned to manage my stress level so that I am not often angry.

@lucillelucillelucille Doing Disco only made it worse for me. So now I take out my anger by Slapping Cpt Kirk

@Vignette He needs to turn around

@Forever_Free I am envious as that is where I ultimately want to be. I do meditate often now when I reach the boiling point and that really does help. It is essentially a time out which helps the jag fade away and I am left wondering what I was so twisted about in the first place.

I sleep it off.

@Jonsblond You could get rich selling Ice Cream for anger management!

@janbb I too used to get knotted up over the most minuscule things. Now I just say goosfraba

@Vignette It took a lot of work and significant time. I was in a toxic relationship years ago and learned how to buffer and survive. I don’t suggest taking this road to anyone.
I Wish you the best.

I manage it, by confronting the source. Then, I go from there.

I stomp around and wave my arms about and if it’s not too hot out I chop wood.
I don’t much get really angry anymore.

Watch re-runs of Sesame Street & yell obscenities at Big Bird for being so bloody smug.

I really don’t manage anger. I let it breathe when it ignites.

Depends on the circumstances but I wouldn’t push it with me.
Let’s say I have a thin veneer of control.

@KNOWITALL are you a red head?

@Coolhandluke I’m not sure I’ll say because you’ll label me….lol

I write furiously. I manage my anger. I don’t let it control me.

I give myself a “time out” if I can. Even if it’s just sitting in the bathroom for awhile.

By reflecting on how much my anger upset my mom when I was a kid and she was living.

I feed it sandwiches and cookies, and give it a pat on the head.

@Coolhandluke . You are quite in perspective. Respect.

I walk a lot unless it’s too hot or too cold. That’s when I lock myself in the bathroom so I can have a chat with myself on how they aren’t worth my anger

I keep my temper on a tight leash. When it gets loose, I become a bit psychotic.

@filfann When I was a kid, I had to work at expressing myself. Very shy. My theory is that honest emoting is not always a bad thing.

I walk away a lot, I use to get into fights and really hurt the other guy. I punched my share of walls, and I use to use my fist to knock the planks off of pallets. I’d do things to physically exert myself to bring my temper back down to calm.

Honest and reasonable emotion is fine. Unreasonable emotion, where you could potentially turn on people, is not. I think that is what @filmfann was referring to.
Rick tends to get unreasonably angry over the most minor things…like I put the sack of left over Halloween candy in the freezer. That really pissed him off. I don’t know why. I think that kind of anger is a guy thing. “Real men” get angry.

@Dutchess_III Huh, well is it HIS candy or why did he say he was so upset? lol, that kind of makes me giggle a little bit.

No. It was the candy that was left after Halloween. I put it in the fridge so I wouldn’t see it laying around and give in to temptation. Plus, once it’s frozen it takes longer to eat. Two quick diet tricks there.
I have no clue why it made him so mad. I just handed it to him and told him to take it up to his office.

@Dutchess_III Taking a boys candy away, you big meanie! haha

And in reference to our conversation the other day, my Sag husband is completely sugar obsessed and would be the exact same way. Literally goes thru a half case of Coke in two days, so I had to buy 2 liters. He’s crazy about sugar and his whole family are diabetics. Sigh…these boys I swear.

He used to be in really good shape, but in the last few years….his eating habits have hit the dirt. Now he goes for anything sugar and fat. I find it so off putting when he literally fries his bagels in butter. It’s not the same as putting a layer of butter on the bagel and toasting it. Frying it causes the bagel to literally soak the butter up. When he orders at a restaurant, he unerringly goes for the most calorie, fat laden item on the menu. Almost always pork, too.

@Dutchess_III Blech, sounds disgusting. The bagels alone are a ton of carbs.

And my husband adores bagels, too, and I can’t stand them (ok the onion ones are good sometimes.) If I hadn’t met Rick, I’d think we were married to the same man sometimes lol

I like bagels, with cream cheese. I can only eat half of one, though.

@Dutchess_III My husband is around 150lbs and can eat more and faster than anyone I’ve ever seen. His whole family has such a high metabolism he has to drink protein shakes to keep the weight on. Lucky sob….lol

I like wheat english muffins better myself.

I finally came around to preferring wheat bread…but I have yet to make the leap to wheat bagels or English muffins.

@Dutchess_III My husband calls it toenail bread, when I buy the whole grains…such a dork. God forbid he eat anything healthy…lol Mmmm, I love the whole grain bread with real butter, yummy.

Toe nail bread! THAT’S GROSS!!
Yes. REAL butter, all the way!