Have you ever apologized when you didn’t mean it?

No.

I might have saved a fifteen year friendship if I had just apologized. But I had nothing to apologize for. Apologizing would have been a farce. That’s not what friendships should be based upon.

Not that I can think of. I have apologized when the other person felt it was not necessary or called for, but I meant it. My stubbornness prevents me from being compelled to apologize; I will refuse to do so if someone is demanding it and I don’t mean it.

Before I felt that estranging myself from my mother was a viable option (my dad was still alive and I didn’t want to chance losing him, too) I would apologize to her fairly frequently in order to stop the flow of verbal abuse.

About as many times I said “How are you?” when I did not mean it.

@ragingloli About as many times I said “How are you?” when I did not mean it.

I’m sorry?

I was an adult at the time. My youngest brother was being a jerk and I called him a Hemorrhoid. My mother told me to apologize, that what I said was mean. Sooo. I looked at my brother and said: “I sorry you’re hemorrhoid.”.

Yes. It’s what they wanted to hear.

Quite often actually. As an outspoken truth speaker, not everyone appreciates that, so like with my aunt (in law), I apologized for making her uncomfortable, because I knew she was not comfortable speaking out.

Funny enough, now that we are friends again, she’s turned into a truth speaker and loves it-with her own family, sisters, etc…

It’s odd that so many people avoid conversations where they may have to emote face to face.

Yes, I have. :D
I most recently apologized for the rock I put in my husband’s lunch bag.
I wrapped it in tinfoil to make it look pretty.
I told him I was sorry I didn’t put more in there to share with his friends.
He knows that I am not sorry for anything I do like that and can read me like a book anyway, so I don’t even try to do that in a manipulative way.
I say it when I mean it.

Admittedly, it is sometimes the most effective way to shut up a whiner. Yes, I have done that.

@Patty_Melt I second that!!!

Sure. Why not? If it helps a situation, why not?

No. Even as a kid mother would tell me to apologize to my sister and unless I felt like I was wrong I wouldn’t. I have had one, and only one, adult say to me “do it for me” when asking that I make an apology to a third person. I just stared at him in silence.