(NSFW) Guys, exactly what do you find sexy in a woman?

She has to be my wife!

Nothing wrong with your example

Your example works just fine.

Not one who shouts at me like in the video.

Every woman is different. There is no single rule for what I find sexy. It’s the combination that does it.

The word could have different meanings to different people, especially men. I find the nape of the neck to be very sexy

The girl in the video is trying way too hard & failing miserably.
Not sexy, more desperate.

The video is “trying to be sexy, for commercial purposes” to me, which in general can work, but that video specifically fails for me because it involves destroying land with off-road vehicles, which strikes me as insensitively destructive and noisy in a way that turns me off in many ways. Also the video seems like “USA ‘country’ culture”, which also alienates me and severely turns me off and I have many prejudices against and distaste for.

Sexy to me can mean various things, each of which I may tend to find different things sexy about them. I tend not to isolate “sexy” from other reactions/experiences of attractiveness, which is somewhat a different thing.

Attractiveness is much more interesting to me. So I can find something somewhat sexy but my interest and reactions are undermined if it’s not attractive to me in other ways.

Mainly though, it’s about the way someone interacts, and whether it communicates authentic interest and connection or not. And it’s about who the person is that is doing that, and whether I find that person attractive, which tends to involve things like presence, spark, at least some level of perceptible intelligence, interest, attention and warmth. And then also various aspects of facial expression and beauty.

I think she’s pretty in a general sense, but no, I don’t find her attractive, and certainly not sexy. I like kindness in a woman, and I don’t find any indication of kindness in the video.

Maybe I can help a bit further: I was hoping for things like her smile, her dimples, the way she wrinkles up her nose. Her eyes, her voice, her sweetness. I left it to private interpretation to see if someone would look at their woman and remember why they married her.

If that’s what you were getting at, then why use an example of a music video – or is that your wife?

Aren’t those things (and most other reasons people marry) more about endearment and attachment than sexiness, per se?

@RabidWolf That’s what I did. One of the things I appreciate most about my wife is her kindness, and I did not find any indication of kindness in the video, only showing off.

I guess it’s a Southern Thing. We like women who have guts and do wild and dangerous things. Living life on the edge. They take no shit and will fight back if some asshole attacks her. I was born and raised in Texas, and I never dated a girlie girl type. Barbie Doll Type. A woman that could pitch a tent, and could match me with firearms. A woman that would stand her ground. To me, that is the sexiest thing any woman can do. Her eyes are what grab me first then after I get to know her I’m usually hooked.

Oh, I like women who are independent, strong, and self-sufficient, too. I know someone who was totally unafraid to travel to Uzbekistan on her own, and another who went backpacking solo in the mountains in Patagonia, and I find these very attractive, too. Someone who has a world view and doesn’t think that our way is the only and best way. But it’s how she treats others and how she treats me that matters most.
I also find it sexy if she has something upstairs, if you know what I mean. If she can speak 5 languages, or solve differential equations, or hold her own in a debate, or explain DNA repair, that would be very sexy, in my opinion.