Females who don’t have brothers: did you ever want one?

Oh yes. I always wanted a big brother. I had older cousins that I just adored and wished that they lived with us. After I grew up, I understood that a brother wouldn’t necessarily be like my cousins, but when I was young, I thought it would have been great!

A hot step brother would have been enough.

Yes, a brother to look out for me and be my besty would have been great.

I’ll answer my own Q. When my MIL asked me I told her no. I don’t remember ever once wishing I had a brother. It never occurred to me once that he might be, or should be, a protector. I hear that a lot when I ask people this question. Do brothers really do that? I never thought in terms of needing a protector, my parents kept me safe in my mind, and overall I felt safe anyway as a child. I just never gave having a brother a thought. Is your brother going to be around the very minute you need protection? Protected from what?

I know my sister once said she wished we had more sisters, we were in our early teens, I thought that was nice, and I agreed at the time, although I hadn’t thought about it previous to her saying it.

My observation is big brothers do some mean things to their younger siblings girls and boys, including physically pushing them around. Maybe some boys don’t do that. I don’t understand idealizing having an older brother at all, but I have no experience with it in terms of day to day.

I have two older sisters, they were pretty abusive, physically, in a sibling kind of way. I didn’t want a brother for protection, I wanted something different.
If you got along with your sister, that is nice. :-)

@canidmajor I still find it interesting that you wanted a brother and not to be an only child in that situation. I think the younger sibling is always vulnerable, no matter the gender. I was the oldest, so I guess I also never imagined having an older sibling let alone one that was a different gender.

My big brother was not a protector.

I was an only child until I was 18 and I liked it that way. The only time I ever wished for a sister was when we moved to California for a year when I was 9, and there were times when I was lonely. I never wanted a brother for a playmate or a protector.

I have a male cousin who’s about 7 years older than I am, and when I was little, he could be mean.