Do women (or men) keep track of their date-to-sex ratio? (likely NSFW)

I don’t know about all women, but I never even thought of such a thing.

I would not even consider screwing someone unless we have started a serious relationship.

I wouldn’t track that. I don’t even know what mine would be because I’ve never been on an actual date.

No. I’ve never done that but I have held up score cards. (1–10 rating system)

Nah, that’s just sad!
Similar to @lucillelucillelucille though, I’ve yelled out a score during.
As you can probably imagine, this fluctuates dramatically as we reach climax & indeed, with each individual girl.

Do you make sure to tell them your system before hand? Or do you let them guess if a 1 is low or a 10 is the best or vice versa

@SergeantQueen- No.
Their guess is an indication of either their intelligence or confidence.lol

I’m with @anniereborn. Never occurred to me to keep some sort of score. Now, are you talking about multiple dates with one person, or dates with different people?
Assuming you mean the same person, I didn’t give in to a guy until I knew he was serious about me and really cared about me. That usually took about 6 months of exclusive dating, during which time we had dozens of dates with no sex afterward. Afterward, lots of sex. Sex 5 times a day if he could have his way.

@Dutchess_III 5 times a day ?? Doesn’t it seem to lose meaning after that? I mean I can see twice a day, but that’s about it for this gal.

That was back in my college days. I exaggerated a bit. It just seemed like he just wanted sex all the time! Of course it got to be a bit boring but it was still usually kinda fun and energetic so it was what it was.

I’ve NEVER kept track nor given them a score!!!

@LadyMarissa – numbers were too high to count?

@elbanditoroso -Lol! :)

I haven’t kept a tally. I don’t think I could even try to estimate the ratio. I think that the words dates, and sex, are both too subjective.

Here is a question for you guys….say you have a crappy time on a date. You realize you have nothing in common. You don’t like her at all. But if she indicated she was open to having sex afterward, would you be up for it? (heh heh pun not originally intended)

Ladies, same question.

@Dutchess_III No.

@Dutchess_III – no. And the situation happened once to me, just after I got divorced.

I had no interest whatsoever in the woman, I wanted to leave and head home. She offered a nightcap at her home…

I thanked her, got in the car, and never saw her again.

No. I’m waiting until we’ve been together for 6 months at least. Or married. I don’t know yet. @Dutchess

I once asked my husband if he was mad at me, would he still want to have sex with me. He said “Yes.” I did not understand that. Still don’t.

@Dutchess_III Husband & wife quarrels are best worked out in the bedroom. You can get mad at each other but if you are in a loving relationship you know it’s temporary and it’s best to “kiss and makeup”

I have been married a total of 28 years and I disagree @ARE_you_kidding_me. No way in hell was I going to let him fuck me so he could orgasm when he had slapped our 5 year old that day (which was the moment I decided this shit of 10 years was over.)

To answer the 2nd question, maybe. Depending on what is wrong with her. If it’s something that could mean an STD, I’m out. If she’s just stupid, or boring, I’m in…

I guess @MrGrimm888 answered the questions.

@Dutchess_lll It seems like you end up with guys who want a lot of sex that you don’t. And that is just sad. They need to chill.

Dutch. Remember. I’m just giving my response. I don’t represent ALL men….

@Dutchess_lll That’s not a loving relationship nor is it temporary. I’m not talking about serious things like that.

They just liked having sex with me I guess @anniereborn.

@Dutchess_lll Oh, yeh, okay. Forget the empathy then. Geez.

They were 17, 18, 19, 10 year old guys! Of course that’s all they thought of!

Oh yeah. I failed one class, because the girl who sat in front of me always had her butt crack showing. I don’t remember anything else, about the class.

^^Was it sex ed that you missed? would explain a lot

No. But Sex Ed, left me vastly confused. I had that course, when I was 10. The way it was explained, I thought my testicles came off of my body, and went into the female. I was terrified! What if the girl ran off, with my balls before they reattached !?!

That’s known as ‘emasculation’, @MrGrimm888 – and some women do that to men long after marriage. It’s an ongoing danger.

Oh you poor thing @MrGrimm888! They mixed biology in with sex ed. They tried to do the same to me. They made sex ed my male biology teacher’s job. He really couldn’t handle it. Me being me I had a lot of questions. He turned beet red with every question and started stammering. So I quit asking questions.

I had an older female, as a sex ed teacher. Looking back, she did a terrible job.
They separated the boys, and girls. The girls attended the same class, with no boys, and the boys had no girls in the room. I think, retrospectively, it would have been better to have both genders, in the same class.

I can’t speak for the girls. But, all of the boys were leaving the class, with more questions than we went into it with….

I learned much more, from pornography, than sex ed. And that’s not really a good thing…

No. It would not be better to have both genders in the same room.
When I was in 6th grade all the girls were assembled in the gym for a discussion about periods. It was a film and it opened with “Now you are 12 years old. Soon a few drops of blood with appear….”
A couple of boys hung around the door and evesdropped. My neighbor boy teased me on the bus incessantly, for months, with the opening lines. Which is how I remember what the opening lines were. A lot of the boys teased us.
It simply humiliated us girls, and in no way did it actually prepare me for the appearance of my first period.

First of all. We know that children, can be cruel. Those who tease, and bully, will always have material.

Secondly. I’m sure that there would have been things that the girls would have learned about boys, that they could have teased them about.

Splitting the genders up, and just talking about that gender, isn’t educational about sex. It’s really just education about your own body…

In my case, a female was the teacher. And she was fairly ignorant, about male anatomy. Or, at least how to teach it…

IMO. Both genders, should be present. And it would be a good idea to have a male, and female teacher, teaching the class…

They don’t separate German, or Jewish kids, when you are taught about WWll…

What were you ever teased about by a girl @MrGrimm888?

When I was in 3rd grade one of my favorite shirts unzipped down the front. It had a ring that you hooked your finger in to pull the zipper down. We were at recess. Suddenly one of the boys ran up to me, and before I could move, he completely unzipped my shirt and he and his friends ran away laughing. I was horrified and panicked. Just then the teacher blew the whistle to come in. I was frantically trying to get my shirt zipped back up. She didn’t even ask why I was crying when I made it to the line.

When we played on the monkey bars boys would come and look up our dresses (We weren’t allowed to wear pants so school the,) then run away jeering and laughing. Or swinging on the swings. Or sliding down the slide.

I had a male teacher come on to me in Middle School, and another in High School.

I can’t even imagine what they’d start doing to us, and saying to us, if we were all forced to watch sex shit together, especially when we’re all hitting puberty.
No no. Two separate classes, thank you.

I remember they split us up. I think I was 12 and what they told us was not exactly any major revelation at that point.

I knew about sex by then too. I learned when I was 5 and I asked Mom. But I had a whole set of different questions that I would have not wanted to ask in front of boys, like, “Can you still get pregnant if you have sex when you’re on your period?” My male biology teacher wanted to sink through the floor. He got all read in the face.

In our Junior High, Health Class was taught by gym teachers. And when we got to the sex ed portion, boys were taught by the male phys ed teacher, and girls by the female phys ed teacher.

I had sex ed in PE in middle school. Well, it was health class, but was held upstairs in the gym. In high school my male biology teacher taught it, but it was two separate classes. One for the boys, one for the girls.

@Dutchess_III Your mom told you about sex when you were five ???? I hope it involved a stork. That is too young to process that kind of thing.

^ It’s a pretty normal age for Europe these days. You use age-appropriate language and don’t overwhelm them. Has the benefit of removing a lot of awkwardness. And talking to your parents about these things is no big deal when you’re used to it from a young age.

I had no problem processing it. It didn’t embarrass me. I found it somewhat absurd, actually. It wasn’t until 9 years later, when I saw a stud mount a mare that I understood how it could happen!
If a kid is old enough to ask the question, they’re old enough for a straight answer.

Right after I had my middle child, my 6 year old got curious and asked. I told her. No big deal.

My son and his wife have a son who is 12.5, and he is clueless about sex. I find that very odd.

Dutch. I wasn’t teased, by girls. They were just mean to me. Well . The super hot girls. They made me feel like I must have been really ugly…

I had a VERY low self esteem, until my early 20’s…

Teasing, would have been great. They made me feel like shit, instead…

Then you don’t understand how cruel boys can be to girls when it comes to sexual matters, or body matters.

^Then, neither do you….

That made no sense. I described a couple times I was teased about my body by a boy.

You aren’t seeing the forest, for the trees.

@MrGrimm888

When it comes to sex or body image, as @Dutchess_III is talking about, in my experience, girls are mean to other girls, and boys are mean to girls as well.

If you are talking about dating, that’s a whole other thing, and not relevant to what @Dutchess_III is talking about. I’ve had boys make comments to me about my body, and I’ve had girls judge me too

Thank you. Very good point @SergeantQueen.

I would add that, if a male is “mean” to you, it may be because he’s actually interested in you.
Men like a variety of different body types. But. Men do not know how to express their feelings, as well as females.
Yes. Some people are just assholes. But. Some are just trying to get your attention.
Females, are in a constant state of competition. So. They will go after one another, in an attempt to elevate themselves.

@MrGrimm888 No, that isn’t true. I would not tell young girls that if a male is mean to you, that he likes you. If that starts at a young age, that’s how women end up in abusive relationships. That is so damaging to say to young girls.
If a man is mean to you, you need to stay away.

(^^One way the can end up in an abusive relationship.)
Men treat women they like with kindness. A real man wouldn’t show he likes someone by being mean.

I’m not competing with anyone, by the way. I don’t fight over boys. Most girls I know don’t either.

Thank you @SergeantQueen. I was a little speechless over @MrGrimm888‘s comment that suggested we should take insults and teasing and sexual harassment as a compliment. You are spot on.

I NEVER suggested that it should be viewed as an a compliment. You are spot off.

So what does this mean
”I would add that, if a male is “mean” to you, it may be because he’s actually interested in you.”
He’s trying to show he’s into you right? By being a dick? If it’s not meant to be taken as a compliment that by being mean he likes you, how is it supposed to be taken?

That’s that old school thinking that we’re trying to change. Abuse is not complimentary in any way.

Intent. My comment, was about intent. I was just saying that some of the guys being mean, don’t intend to hurt you. They’re just stupid. Or intellectually challenged.
Especially pre-adolescent boys…

So… instead of taking an insult to heart, let it go as nothing. Or. Fire back. But, that’s what they want. They want to talk to you.

Geeeez…

I still want some clarification about the question.
Is it “I went on a date with George and we had sex afterward. I am awarded 1 point. Then I went on a date with Fred and we had sex afterward. Now I have 2 points.”
Or is it “I went on 30 dates with Doug but didn’t have sex until after date 30 (though he was down for sex after every single date. I never went out with one single guy who wasn’t.)

Date to sex ratio
Dates:Sex
First scenario, you have a date, and on each date you have sex It’s 1:1
Second scenario, it takes you 30 dates before you have sex, it’s 30:1

What is the point of keeping score?

There isn’t

I was asking @elbanditoroso. It was his question.

There is definitely no point, in keeping score. Other than maybe ego…

I guess I’ve never known a man who wasn’t down for sex after every date I ever had. I wasn’t down with it though. If I was I guess my success rate would be 100%.