How does Fluther deal with anger?

I skateboard. Or listen to music. Really loudly. Or do both at the same time.

Exercise is good, so is loud music that you can jump around to. And if nothing else is possible, a small not-very-easily-breakable object could be abused….

Just don’t kick your dog. Or your children. That would be bad.

Punching a hole through some drywall always makes me feel better. Except that time I hit the stud.

Scrub the kitchen floor. But I seldom get angry, so sometimes I have to do it even when I’m in a good mood.

I usually talk out why I’m angry as if saying it to the person that I’m angry at. It releases most of the anger that I have pent up inside of me, and I feel much better. Then I do something to take my mind off of it.

Another way, which I haven’t tried, that is supposed to get rid of anger, is writing a note to the person your angry at, and explain why your angry and just say everything you feel like saying to thing. But don’t send it. It’s supposed to help.

I go for a run and usually cry my eyes out along the way.

This is the perfect question, It seems that when I am thinking something and go to fluther its in the last five questions. Well I am angry right now and am glad for all the helpful advice.

I can’t stand seeing people in bad spots and abusive relation ships, and being able to nothing about it. I know its not my problem, but when I see the suffering of someone that I care about, which can be avoided, it really makes me steam. I wish I was a Guru or something, so I could help by just walking into the room.

So to get to the question, I am painting a 4’ x 5’ canvass with unimaginable ferocity, I am destroying the paint onto the surface. I am tossing globs of paint like I hate them. Inanimate harmless violence, that will eventually bequeath something beautiful in the end, it is the only way to go.

You may think I’m nuts and this won’t help you at all, but for me, I watch Mr. Rogers. He’s downright trance-inducing. Always calms me down. Incidentally…

What do you do with the mad that you feel
When you feel so mad you could bite?
When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong…
And nothing you do seems very right?

What do you do? Do you punch a bag?
Do you pound some clay or some dough?
Do you round up friends for a game of tag?
Or see how fast you go?

It’s great to be able to stop
When you’ve planned a thing that’s wrong,
And be able to do something else instead
And think this song:

I can stop when I want to
Can stop when I wish.
I can stop, stop, stop any time.
And what a good feeling to feel like this
And know that the feeling is really mine.
Know that there’s something deep inside
That helps us become what we can.
For a girl can be someday a woman
And a boy can be someday a man.

…and now that everyone dismisses me as an idiot, I’m going back to the scarf I’m crocheting… which, by the way, also helps calm me down.

I yell.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I usually just stop the conversation with my mother. That is usually the only time I ever get mad at anything. And then I get drunk.

Jump rope. Really fast.

I don’t have a quick temper, so it usually takes something special to get me truly angry. When I’m mad, though.. it’s best people stay out of my way.

1) Remove myself from the situation/person that is the cause of my anger.
....1a) If not possible, try to breathe and avoid crying out of utter frustration and rage.
2) Vocalize, either in aggravated noises, or by talking to someone about it, or by talking to myself about it like the person were standing in front of me and I’m giving them a piece of my mind.
3) Slam things around if anger is excessive and I need a physical vent.
4) Figure out how to resolve problem so anger goes away.
....4a) If not possible (e.g. the affront is so egregious it’s unforgiveable), devise devious payback.
........4i) Savor creative revenge fantasy if actual payback is not warranted (most of the time).
........4ii) Deliver devious payback if warranted.

I don’t know if I have a quick temper, per say, but I think there are certain things I let get too me more then I should. Usually when I get upset I try to walk it off; if that doesn’t work I resort to singing it off or, if I’m really desperate, I risk making a fool of myself by reciting my favorite Shakespeare soliloquies; on a positive note, I think my family has gotten used to this.

I eat.

Usually a double double from IN’N OUT http://www.in-n-out.com/

(I know I know)

Assassination is always an option.

August 31, 2008, 7:06 PM EDT

I don’t initially deal with it very well. I pretty much just cry my head off. Later on, I’ve got to talk about it, ideally with the person I’m angry with/about/at.

I smoke a nice cigarette….or 2.

I smoke also, but not cigarettes.

Pole?

count to ten – ten times!

Primal screams help me.

Tell someone, have a vent, take a walk and breathe deeply. And sometimes I eat. Okay, I always eat. Comfort food.

Not much helped me until I learned some techniques for physically channeling my anger. There are a series of bioenergetic exercises that work well for me. Also a yoga position called legs against the wall is very helpful for moving through anger.

In the short term, vocalizing and air or pillow punching in a closed room also helps me some.

I completely destroy a few cardboard boxes… Then I bandage up a knuckle or two and take a nap.

I abuse my poor, poor little drums. I stop when I’m too tired or a skin breaks- then I replace it and re-tune them. It’s cathartic.

If you’ve been angry for a while, it kind of saps your energy and just makes you more miserable. Sometimes I’m lucky and something distracts me for a few hours by coincidence, then when I return to thinking about it, it’s less annoying.

If it’s something that has really angered me, I’m not adverse to literally getting it out of my system by running, or jumping in the air or yelling. The physicality of the release actually has been shown to relax those tense, angry muscles and I also read that if you change the angry frown or scowl in the mirror to a happy face (I know, it’s tough, especially when you want to punch someone in the face) it can literally change the rest of your tense body and cause your mind to stop being angry. I guess the mental and physical are deeply connected when it comes to our emotions.