Would you let this bother you?
(Specifically you, not “you” as in “general”. I won’t take anyone’s answer as advice so don’t worry about speaking your mind :) I’m just curious)
I’m looking up suitable therapists in my area, and because my problem is a bit complicated and after many months I finally found this lady today that qualifies in exactly the kind of therapy I need. As far as I know (I could be wrong) this method is still new (at least in my country) but I’m curious to find out how it turns out for me.
The problem: I opened her LinkedIn and found out she’s almost my age and reminded me of all the girls I used to know at school who used to bully me. One of her teamwork experiences mentioned on her profile also triggered an upsetting memory from school days when I was at my worst point of major depressive disorder. Suddenly I started to see every bully in her face and just started to feel toxic.
But she’s the only one person I could find with the right credentials.
Would you give it a shot in this situation?
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HUH ?
What has any of that got to do with the price of tea in Japan ? ? ?
If she is a good therapist this could be a great opportunity for you to work out those issues from your past if you are projecting your feelings about them onto her.
You owe it to yourself to check her out in person
She could be exactly the person you need. Stop trippin’ and make an appointment.
It could go either way.
Either you give her a shot. And she helps you through your original issues. And also whatever is going on with projecting onto her.
Or your projection could inhibit any meaningful progress you could have made with her.
I’d say it’s worth it to give it a shot. But if you do, I’d be straightforward and tell her about your projections.
Try once. See how it goes.
I would go to her and tell her about all this. I don’t think there is any other way to go about it if you do decide to go to her.
Agree with going to her. You have nothing to lose if you do go. If it’s not going to work you will know within the first meeting or two and you can sort things out from there.
Iseconding @janbb , you have a great intro for your first session. The therapist will open your first session asking what brings you to her, and you can open with, “I see you specialize in ——, but first I need to tell you I am reluctant because you seem similar to girls who used to bully me.”
I’d go for it because of that reason.
I’m with @lucillelucillelucille
Seems to me that you have a double benefit.
You get to come face to face with whatever it is that bothers you, plus it’s a qualified therapist to help you learn how to get over it.
So hire her, and learn to get over it.
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