Minor pet peeve time: How do you feel about men saying "the wife"?

I“ll start. To me, saying “the wife” instead of “my wife” sounds impersonal and degrading. I’ve never heard anyone say “the husband.” I’m not accusing anyone here or elsewhere of intentionally using it derogatorily but it really grates on me.

Feel free to disagree and bicker. it’s a change of topic anyway.