How do you influence and persuade someone effectively?

Baseball bats tend to be effective.

Shooting rubber bands is less effort but also effective.

@elbanditoroso -Do you use a little slugger for less important things or standard issue for everything? metal or wood?

Standard issue – all wood – no aluminum

@elbanditoroso – I see. The aluminum will sometimes sound like a gong upon contact.
I call that noise “Epiphany!” XD

The most effective ways are blackmail, extortion and threat or application of violence.

It’s an ancient Chinese secret.

Ask what they think and why they want something a certain way etc

Address all concerns in an intelligent and caring way, to get full meaning.

When a person argues it means ” tell me more, so that I can understand your position on the matter” ..so address each issue.

The hardest person to persuade is one who won’t discuss anything, as they had made up there mind and nothing will change them.

@ragingloli -All excellent suggestions!

@KNOWITALL -I remember that commercial

@Inspired_2write – Get yourself a bat! XD

@lucillelucillelucille
Violence does not solve, it only begets more violence.
Use the voice of reason as its more effective and long lasting and peaceful.

@Inspired_2write -You know I’m being facetious…;)

@Inspired_2write assuming that the other interlocutor is open to reason and persuasion. Not all people are so inclined.

Aaah, this is something I have to do frequently as a teacher. One golden rule when trying to persuade people is to restrain yourself from trying too hard. No one likes to be told what to do and they will only listen to you when they see the reason why they should. That’s what I do with the kids, telling them the benefit of doing something instead of threats. Sometimes I can even use their logic to redirect to my persuasion. I can tell a kid who wants to look good in front of their peer that doing something would serve them just that.

In the end it all comes down to understanding the kind of people you are dealing with. The people who I have a better chance to persuade are usually the one who already trust me enough. People are more likely to listen to you when they know you care.

Or just do it the Mafia way and put a machine gun behind their backs :D

@elbanditoroso

Everyone is open to peaceful negotiation, it depends on the first delivery.

Bringing a bat to an argument is NOT a good sign of negotiations.

If one brings a bat then walk away until they can be reasonable.

Of course if attacked then self defense is necessary to protect from harm as that is a different scenario .

@Mimishu1995 -I agree with your entire answer :)

@lucillelucillelucille

“You know I’m being facetious…;)”
How would I know that when in a serious discussion unless you indicated that first ?

@Inspired_2write _It’s all in the details…. as well as being in the social section.
When I ask questions here people are welcome to answer any way they see fit. :)

Whats the point if they have made up their mind they would rather be wrong than see it in any other light.

@SQUEEKY2

The point is that they heard you and maybe later they will think on it and change.

Nine times out of ten the person wishes to save face but later changes his/her mind perhaps.

The strongest person is not the one with the bat, but rather the one who can remove that bat from shear strength alone.

Will all respect, @Inspired_2write you sound a lot like Polyanna(1960_film) in that insipidly cheerful Disney movie

I have a really hard time accepting that 9 times out of 10 the person wants to save face.

@elbanditoroso

Every Bully does, especially within his group.

My opinion.

Pollyanna?

I am just seeing the positive side to things rather than negative.

I look at both sides and prefer to get to the positive outcome.

Nothing wrong with that, is there?

Facts, personal experiences, statistics but what really seems to change minds is empathy.

Making them FEEL something, even if it’s anger or joy, is part of the equation. That’s why we need movies like Django, sites like this, and books about ugly things in history, in my opinion. We need them to create that emotional investment for people who haven’t experienced it or know anyone who has. To start the conversation.

Money talks, bs walks? Also, lie. A lot. Not me personally. :)